Guest ShooterJay Report post Posted July 17, 2002 As a Jew in a family of devout, practicing, close-knit Jews, I'm a few years off from prime marital age, and to me, my religion is starting to become a friggin' albatross across my back. In the Jewish religion, if the woman a Jewish man marries is not a Jew, the children must be the woman's religion. Which means if I marry a Christian or a Buddhist or whatever, my kids are that, which means my parents will effectively disown me. This is far too steep a price to pay, and I always put family over a chick (The ones I date usually turn out crazy in the end anyway.) But seriously, why should religion control who you should/can fall in love with? I mean, I believe in my religion and think it's the right one, but seriously, issues like these drive me to hate it, and religion in general. Anyway, I want to know your thoughts pn this issue. Intelligent discussion would be refreshing. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest bob_barron Report post Posted July 17, 2002 I'm the product of an interfaith marriage. My mom is Jewish, dad Christian. I celebrate both Hannukah and Christmas and other holidays such as Passover. I was also Bar Mitzvahed as well. My grandparents to the best of my knowledge weren't upset. In fact both my mom's brothers married Christian women. So to sum it up- If you really love this women try to get your parents to be more understanding. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest GenerationNever Report post Posted July 17, 2002 Well, I don't believe in anything Judeo-Christian related. But I would suggest not letting a religion control what you want to do. It's your choice. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest bob_barron Report post Posted July 17, 2002 Dude- it's awesome. You get Christmas AND Hannukah presents! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Spicy McHaggis Report post Posted July 17, 2002 Religion topics don't usually yield intelligent discussion on this board, with a few exceptions. But if I were you, I'd cross that bridge when I come to it. Don't let religion tell you who and who not love. Wait until you fall in love... If that special someone is a Jew, great. If not, THEN it's time to decide what's more important to you: the love you share, or your potential kids' religion. This comes from a devout Catholic, btw. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest DrTom Report post Posted July 17, 2002 "I'm a few years off from prime marital age..." Then you have plenty of time to become an atheist. B) I didn't start down that road until I was 18, really, and everything just sort of snowballed from there. "But seriously, why should religion control who you should/can fall in love with?" It's the nature of the beast. Religions have always tried to control the faithful. They're a little more savvy about it nowadays, but the attempts are certainly still there. Honestly, I don't know what I'd do in your place. It's not an enviable position to be in, that's for certain. It's good that family is important to you, and I hope you never have to make the choice you're obviously dreading. Perhaps if you do meet a girl of another faith, you can talk it out with your parents first. That might soften the blow and not lead to them disowning you for your "heathen" children. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest NoCalMike Report post Posted July 17, 2002 Religion is supposed to be a personal thing anyway, so no parent should disown a kid for not choosing to believe in the exact religion as them. My decision would be to erradicate all organized religion from your brain, and think about how to make mankind and earth a better place to live for your grandchildren, but hey, that's just me~! Oh and my mom is Jewish, and my Dad is a Catholic. I wasn't raised either. I was raised to make that decision for myself. I believe that is the way it should be. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Midnight Express83 Report post Posted July 17, 2002 my personal opinion: Religion and Nationalism are the two WORST things in the world. ALL wars are spawned because of these things. So basically. It don't care about intermarriages. Nor do I care about Religion and Nationalism. If you love a person, be with that person. Bottom line. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest EricMM Report post Posted July 17, 2002 You need to discuss with your parents if they seriously would be upset with you because you married someone who wasn't jewish. Seriously your parents might not understand your situation. Maybe you will find the perfect jewish girl for you, but maybe your girlfriend will be buddhist. What can you do, be controlled by religion? If religion stops helping you in life, then it's not a good thing anymore. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest kkktookmybabyaway Report post Posted July 17, 2002 Who gives a crap what religion you and your better half are? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest GenerationNever Report post Posted July 18, 2002 my personal opinion: Religion and Nationalism are the two WORST things in the world. ALL wars are spawned because of these things. So basically. It don't care about intermarriages. Nor do I care about Religion and Nationalism. If you love a person, be with that person. Bottom line. I agree with your statement. When you think about it, we're all a bunch of crazy primates. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
