What makes someone attractive!

[Guest T®ITEC]

Of course, I've never had a date ever, so what do I know?

Okay, that's it. We need to go out. We'll fix both of our problems. Or whatever.

[Guest Flyboy]

Im not an overly attractive guy, but I dont do too badly with the girls, mostly just cause of the way I carry myself

I'm the exact same way.

[Guest J*ingus]

I was kidding a little bit earlier, I do like redheads, but that's hardly the extent of why I'm attracted to a woman.

 

1. Looks do play an important role, yeah. But one thing that hasn't been mentioned here is that looks are highly subjective. Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder, and one man's goddess is another man's dog. I've found girls attractive that got me strange looks from my male friends, and vice-versa. Personally, I tend to prefer tall white girls with pale skin, red hair, and large breasts, but that hardly means that EVERY woman I'm attracted to must be like that. In fact, none of them have been all of the above. There are tendencies and preferences, but it really does come down to the individual herself.

 

2. It ain't all looks, even in the physical realm. There's a girl who I will attempt to flirt with tomorrow (and probably fail) whom I first noticed because of her amazingly sexy voice. Sight isn't the last word, and sounds, smells, touches, and, well, tastes ( ) all play major roles.

 

3. Personality has a LOT to do with it. For example, I can't stand stupid girls, period. I don't care how gorgeous they are, if I can't carry on a simple conversation with them, I ain't gonna stick around long. I guess this is where that mysterious "chemistry" aspect comes in as well.

 

4. Confidence? Eh, depends. I'm naturally very shy, and pretty much all of my relationships were not initiated by myself. So yeah, there's some need for confidence there. But on the other hand, sometimes there's nothing quite so charming as a "clumsy dork" who thinks that they never do anything right.

 

5. Simple luck and circumstance. Says that Woman A is a tall pale stacked redhead, and she might even like me. But if when I meet Woman A she happens to be drunk, kicks me in the nads, calls me a bitch, and vomits on me, then chances are slim that I'd want anything to do with her afterwards. Say that Woman B is a short flatchested black chick, but I happen to meet her right after she gives a stirring rendition of a Shakespearean monologue, then chances are good that I'd be very interested in talking to her.

 

In short, no Leena, I don't agree with you at all.

[Guest Leena]

That was sweet of you, Jingus.

[Guest The Metal Maniac]

I wonder that myself, man. However, my own personal experience has shown me that nice/decent guys (such as myself) are much more likely to get caught up in the "Friend Zone," which is a well-known killer of would-be relationships.

 

Well, as a "nice guy" and currently a dweller in something like...5 friendship zones at once, I'd say it's because people in general want to be friends with nice people. So girls want to be friends with nice people, obviously.

 

Also, I've always stuck to the theory that girls date assholes because they find something hot about "bad boys". And they're jackasses. That, or they all think they can "change" the guy, turn his life around, blah blah blah.

 

Also, I feel that the original question should be reworded. To me, attractiveness means looks, period. It's what you look like; If I ask someone if they think a girl is attractive, I'm not asking if they think she's funny - I wanna know if they think she's as hot as I do.

 

But, since that's where the topic is going anyway, I'll say that I most enjoy women who AREN'T bitches. That is to say, I hate the "We need to spend more time together" bit, because as far as I see it, if you feel you HAVE to make yourselves spend time together, there's some serious problems going on, and they're not worth working out. One of you obviously doesn't care enough.

 

Boobies are nice, and I tend to be one of the guys who think that the upper limit is something so obscene that you'd have to see it to know it. I also perfer a chick with a nice ass. Basically, chicks with some meat on them - not fat chicks, but not skinny ones either. Chicks with a figure.

 

But then again, I know some skinny chicks who have no real body to speak of, but they have such a fucking cute face I'd rail them in a second anyway. Whatever works, really.

 

And humour is a must. I tend to crack wise a lot - if she can't put up with it, it ain't happening.

[Guest spiny norman]

Okay, for the record, I'm an attractive guy plus not a jerk (my modesty is overwhelming, no?). So am I like the sole exception to the rule that the better looking people are pricks, or am I in fact wrong and actually inconceivably ugly and/or the nicey-niceness of Stalin?

 

That being said though, I don't date often, despite putting up with about a dozen girls with humungous crushes on me each and every day. It is hard you know, walking through a shopping centre and being checked out constantly. At first it's all "cool, that chick's checking me out" but eventually it just dies and it becomes tedious and tiresome.

 

Maybe the posters here are right though, maybe it is the bastards who get the girls? I mean, Hitler is generally considered an arsehole (in my opinion, at least) and he had women hanging off the pecs of his chiselled physique.

 

Guess it goes to show you never can tell.

[Guest big Dante Cruz]

Your modesty is overwhelming

[Guest Youth N Asia]

I'm only going to speak from my own deals in this matter.

 

Nice guy, friendship zone, bleh!

 

This goes back about 4 years ago I'd guess.

 

feel free to skip it if you don't wanna read it, here I go

 

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My story, involves a girl I knew in the kinda sorta way to start with, spoke with simi regularly in a class we had, friendly and all. Year or so went by with us saying no more then "hi" and crap like that in hallways.

 

Next year my school gets a bomb scare, we were all dragged out to the football field sor our safety and whatnot. We kinda bump into each other while walking through the mass of 1,200 students. We talk for about an hour and then made plans to go do something, I think it was a movie.

 

We started hanging out frequently, spending most free time with one another, and it was friendly and all. But then like the dumbass I am, I started getting the feelings and whatnot.

 

And forever later I got the nerve and did the whole uncomfortable speech about this and that, and got the whole friendship zone thing slammed at me hard. Friendship suffered hard after that and was never the same again...too much awkwardness.

 

The come to find out FROM HER SISTER NO LESS! She was very interested in me the whole while, but after the friendship developed into what it became then she didn't think of me that way any longer. And that bothered me more then anything else.

 

Best friend for a few years...now, I haven't even seen or spoken to her since June 2001. Too bad.

 

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SO!

 

For a guy I think the #1 thing is confidence, and make your feelings well known before that bitchgoddess the friendship zone steps into play.

[Guest spiny norman]

A recent survey has shown that a good majority of important decisions regarding the reasons for a person's attractiveness are actually made in El Luchadore Magnifico's Government class, almost ironically enough.

[Guest Agent of Oblivion]

Looks are important, but I go for some weird looking women. For instance, I have little/no interest in girls that all look the same. Anyone in college knows exactly what this girl looks like. Tight black ass pants, midriff shirt with some animal pattern, tan, similar hairdos. No thanks. That's why I like big extravagant tattoos and things like that. Helps girls stand out in my eye. Separates them from the dull crowd of girls that like dancing, and yell at parties when they're drinking.

[Guest Kotzenjunge]

If looks were #1, I doubt that WHITE HOT girl would have hit on me tonight. Bloody hand marks that say I'm under 21...

 

Er, anyway, my "costume" wasn't much of a change in my appearance, it was just my hair and beard colored red, so I still essentially had the same face.

 

So no, looks aren't #1 for everyone, but they're still pretty freaking important.

 

For me, it goes like this:

 

#1: Looks(I usually go for cute rather than gorgeous. If I just want to pinch your cheeks for some reason every time you smile, prepare how you'll reject me)

 

#2: Personality(If you're an uber-Christian, hells no. Other than that, you need to be interesting enough for me not to look at talking to you as a dubious enjoyable pastime.)

 

#3: Intelligence(I'll cry if you're dumb.)

 

#4: Family Life(If I see that your whole family is a wreck, or your parents hate me for whatever reason [i had a friend of mine's mother once think I was gay for five years], I doubt I'll go for it.)

 

Fo sheez,

Kotzenjunge

[Guest Agent of Oblivion]

[i had a friend of mine's mother once think I was gay for five years],

Maybe because you like dancing to gay male disco music. Just sayin', there's a connection there. By the way, what was your costume?

[Guest Kotzenjunge]

No, that wasn't the reason, as I didn't become a technophile until the last year or so. This was during the last year and all four years of high school. She thought I was gay because, get this, I GESTICULATE WHEN I TALK. She'd probably assume everyone from Europe is gay for such a reason.

 

And I went as, surprise surprise, a raver, something that didn't take a lot of effort, just a hair coloring and several glow neckaces with one wrapped around each arm. My friend put strings on two glowsticks and twirled them around and stuff. I did it the old fashioned way of my hands and arms doing all the work. Tremendous night fo sheez, but like I said in some NHB thread, I'll be talking about this at length at some point, as it was QUITE the interesting night.

 

Fo sheez,

Kotzenjunge

[Guest Agent of Oblivion]

I finally settled on dressing up as a priest. I carried around one of those "My Buddy." dolls from way back in the day that I found at a thrift shop. Make your own jokes. The party was pretty lame though. The average fare of witches and zombies and shit. Of course, someone busted the bloody tampon costume out of mothballs as well.

[Guest spiny norman]

Completely off topic, but what does Kotzen mean?

 

Because I figured your name's German, and I can speak German, and I know Junge, and I don't know what Kotzen is, and I am personally wondering what kind of boy you are.

 

Unless I read way too much into your username and it was just a series of random letters, the last five of which happen to be in German?

 

Seductively awaiting your reply.

[Guest Agent of Oblivion]

It's puke, isn't it?

[Guest Leena]

If looks were #1, I doubt that WHITE HOT girl would have hit on me tonight. Bloody hand marks that say I'm under 21...

 

Posts like this are funny, because he doesn't even realize he makes himself look like an ass by writing this shit.

[Guest SP-1]

I'm going to go against the majority here. While looks play a part, my perception of a girl's looks tend to shift as I get to know her. For instance, there's a girl that I liked and she liked me, but as we got closer and became a pseudo-couple, I learned how self absorbed and how much of an attention craving person she was. I can't stand that.

 

I personally place someone's artistic expression and personality above everything else. I need someone who is as artistic as I am, and who has the same imaginative/romantic ability to think and open up their views on life as I do. I'm a storyteller at heart and I operate out of alot of romanticism and chivalric attitudes, not to mention my christianity. I'm not keen on hooking up with someone who is not a Christian, because of the complications that will inevitably crop up.

 

So, I suppose my list is,

 

1. Sharing my faith.

2. Artistic/romanticism/expressive

3. the perceptions of her beauty will be formed from the first two.

 

-SP, who makes things too complicated sometimes.

[Guest DrTom]

To answer the question originally posted, physical appearance makes someoene attractive.

 

Since everyone else has branched out and gotten more in-depth, I guess I can, too. Looks are important to everyone, and anyone who says they're unimportant is lying. You can't date someone unless you're physically attracted to them. They may not be the MOST important factor (and they aren't for me, though they are on the list), but looks absolutely factor into any relationship.

 

Obviously, for a roll in the hay, looks are the determining factor. I don't care if you can carry on a conversation or not in those circumstances, since I don't plan on waking up beside you to find out.

 

In a relationship, though, I have to have someone who's intelligent. If I can't have a real conversation with a person, forget it. After that would be sense of humor, since I love to make wisecracks, sarcastic remarks, and generally like to laugh about a lot of things. Then come looks: they're not the most important factor for me, but I certainly have to find the person attractive. But I'd rather have an 8/10 who's smart and witty than a perfect 10 giggletwit bimbo. Intangibles like overall quality as a person and family life factor in, too. Religion is entirely optional, though strongly discouraged.

 

Yay. Now everyone knows my standards.

 

(And yes, I AM currently single. )

[Guest cobainwasmurdered]

heh. I've got the maturity thing going for myself. I'm 19 renting his own house...what other person my age can trump that?

 

Girls seem to dig that I've made a moderate sucsess out of myself.