My poor nephew, in second grade...

[Guest Mole]

My nephew, Nicholas, just turned 8 years old. He is in second grade, and one of the cutest kids I know. However, he has ADHD and OCD, so he has a lot of problems. Plus, he had to get tubes in his ears when he was young, his earing wasn't that good, so his speech isn't good now. He does wear glasses, but kids don't pick on him for that.

 

 

Since he has these problems, it is really hard for him to make friends. To make matters worse, one week he got a bad cold. He started to pick his nose, and it seemed like he was wipping it on people. However, to get people's attention, he pokes them. It seemed like he was wipping his boogers on people, so he is now known as the booger wipper in class.

 

Tomorrow I'm going to have lunch with him at school. My sister says that he told her that no one sits with him at lunch. I'm going to suprise him and eat lunch with him, just to make him feel better.

 

I feel so bad for him because he is one of the smartest kids that I know, and because I love him so much, being my nephew and all. It sucks that he doesn't have any friends now, and this might follow him into high school. To fit in, he might start doing drugs because that will make him seem cool or whatever.

 

I just hope that something can get figured out so he doesn't become the class dork. Not because he won't be popular, that doesn't matter, but because all of the kids will pick on him. If he is getting picked on when he is in 9th grade, I might have to tell the bullies to stop picking on my nephew. I'll be 26 by then, but the bullies will probably still be bigger than me, seeing how I am only 5'6".

 

Man, kids can be soo fuckin cruel.

[Guest Youth N Asia]

Sorry about your nephew. Kids are real bastards at that age and sadly don't get any better later on.

 

JR high kids fucked with my brother for a while till I (3 grades ahead) made it a point to corner a couple of them and threaten their lives, a dumb move but it worked. Cause I am a big and scary guy when I have to be.

 

I know it's probably not the best advise, but I'd tell him to swing on the next kid that messes with him, might get an ass kicking but people tend to leave you alone when they know you won't take it anymore.

[Guest Mole]

He has punched kids before, in pre-school when they stole his toys.

 

When he gets a little older, like in middle school years, that is the tip I'm going to give him. He is going to be big though, his Father is pretty big.

 

Just knock the bully out, and he will never pick on you again.

[Guest HBK16]

It sucks that he doesn't have any friends now, and this might follow him into high school.

When I got into high school, it was the opposite. All the nerds and looser from our grade school became more popular and some of the more popular kids became nobodies. High school is weird sometimes. Im sure it wont be as bad as he grows up. Kids can be more cruel at a younger age than as they get older because younger kids dont understand what ADHD and OCD is.

[Guest Lord of The Curry]

Kudos for sitting with him at lunch, mole. The "knock the fuck out of the bullies" idea may not sit too well with his faculty, schools are giving less and less tolerance to violence these days.

 

Now calling the bullies houses and leaving threatening phone messages.......

[Guest Mole]

It sucks that he doesn't have any friends now, and this might follow him into high school.

When I got into high school, it was the opposite. All the nerds and looser from our grade school became more popular and some of the more popular kids became nobodies. High school is weird sometimes. Im sure it wont be as bad as he grows up. Kids can be more cruel at a younger age than as they get older because younger kids dont understand what ADHD and OCD is.

Well I hope so. The OCD is a bigger problem than ADHD, because ADHD can be taken care of with medicine. OCD has to be taken care of over time, by changing things in his life.

 

My pops is a social worker and explained everything to me. It was a 40 minute convo, so I can't really break it down, plus I don't remember the details.

 

And thanks Curry.

[Guest Memphis]

That's really awful. I'm in my first year at University studying to become a teacher and we're already being introduced to strategies we can use to counter hostile situations involving conflict between students. Unfortunately, the teacher can only do so much but at that age the teacher is looked upon as some sort of Christ like figure. Have you spoken with his teacher? Honestly, it could make a world of a difference.

 

Not to be over the top or overly dramatic here, but just watch out for him (like you wouldn't, i know) because experiences such as this, as im sure you already know, can manifest into much uglier situations as he gets older.

 

Hope all goes well for the little dude.

 

M

[Guest tank_abbott]

We had a kid with Downs Syndrome who'd eat his snot all day....

 

and cry at random intervals...

 

....mumbles...leaves

[Guest My Eyebrow is on fire]

So what, your nephew's a nerd. Big deal - I'd bet half the people on this board were nerds in elementary. This board has a lot of intellectuals and intellectuals are notorious for being strange at an early age.

 

There's nothing you can do. Either the kid will grow a pair of balls and come out stronger in the end, or he'll shoot himself when nobody will fuck him in high school.

[Guest Mole]

Eyebrow, he is a nerd, but has major problems. OCD is something that can stick with you for your whole life, and it could affect the way he lives. Right now, any changes that come before him, he can't adjust too.

[Guest My Eyebrow is on fire]

I have OCD, full blown. Handwashing for hours, getting up in the middle of the night to take a shower - all that shit. Nobody helped me.

 

I was strong enough to struggle through it, now it surfaces only in circular thought patterns and dwelling - insomnia basically. But that's it.

 

Again, if your nephew is strong enough he'll get through it. If he's not, he natural selection will weed him out. There's nothing you can do.

[Guest SweetNSexyDiva]

Kids can be horribly cruel. What sucks, it doesn't always get better as they get older. I know how helpless you feel because my little brother had the same problem. To help him make more friends, we had him join a lot of programs outside of school. There is a local community center that had basketball and football programs, ceramics classes, etc. Plus, it really helped him learn how to work in teams. Maybe there is something your nephew can join? Local YMCA usually has programs for kids that young. Plus, he'll love the attention of the family watching him play, or the cool things he can make in an art class. Just a suggestion.

[Guest My Eyebrow is on fire]

How OLD are you diva? 100? Kids nowadays fucking hate activities. They're forced into it by their parents. They'd rather be home and stuff their fat little cheeks with Chocolate Fatass Sugar Bunnies watching TV.

 

Hate to be cynical but his nephew will just get mocked and shat on more at the YMCA.

 

Here's a reasonable alternative, mole. Have someone you know who's worked through OCD and ADHD - to become a functional, admirable adult talk to your nephew. Big brothers big sisters maybe, don't they work with retards and shit?

[Guest SweetNSexyDiva]

He's only in 2nd grade... I wouldn't have suggested it if he was 12 or something. My brother has ADHD... though the OCD is not something I know much about.

[Guest Lord of The Curry]

mole- If it continues keep the threat simple. Tell the school that if they don't solve the bullying problem in their school then you'll alert local media (TV, Newspapers) that it's going down. Schools fear negative p.r like the plague, especially if it involves disabled children and the faculty sitting on their hands and doing nothing about it.

[Guest My Eyebrow is on fire]

That is the biggest pussy shit I have ever heard lord. I mean, really, if a kid's parents ever contacted the MEDIA - do you realize how bad the backlash asswhipping will be? The poor kid will never get done with swirlies.

[Guest El Satanico]

"Hit the biggest bully as hard as you can and the rest won't mess with you."

 

The parents of my 8 year old "neice" gave her that advice, about some girls that's been fucking with her. Nothing serious just typical kids shit. So that sort of advice isn't just from people who don't have kids.

 

Sure schools are bitchy about anything that they see as violent, but straight up punches on a kid older or the same age won't get too much of a shit storm stirred up. It's when you go crazy slamming heads into lockers and the floor or using something as a weapon that gets the shit storm stirred up.

 

 

However, the media thing is a good non violent idea.

[Guest CoreyLazarus416]

mole, my nephew's the same way, minus the OCD and ear-tubes. He has a speech impediment (one so bad the school's threatening to hold him back, even though the kid's smart as hell), and acts really weird a lot. I can only guess he gets made fun of, as he's told me some kids were picking on him at school once, and that he told the teacher.

 

However...

How OLD are you diva? 100? Kids nowadays fucking hate activities. They're forced into it by their parents. They'd rather be home and stuff their fat little cheeks with Chocolate Fatass Sugar Bunnies watching TV.

Where have YOU been? Kids don't become less active until they're around 11 or 12. I'm only 16 and I know that. My nephew always wants to wrestle or play soccer or play catch when it's warm out, and the same with my niece. The kids in the neighborhood are always outside playing tag or war or whatever. I see kids riding their bikes all over town. They only stick to video games if they suck at physical games, or if they're fat. Fat kids hate physical acitivity.

[Guest swan]

Runs in the family huh?

[Guest EricMM]

some ADD kids are irritating to people because the anger and yelling and confrontations that come from irritation is very very stimulating to the brain. And a ADD kid's brain is too relaxed, so he can't focus. He might be feeling more awake and aware when he's being yelled at, as opposed to not.

 

Theres a lot of good medication that can treat all kinds of ADD. Get a GOOD psychiatrist, and the kid will calm down.

[Guest Mole]

He is only 8 years old, what will a shrink do? He just needs to adapt to things changing in his life, stuff that happens at different times.

 

My sister runs her life very structured, everything has to be planned. Whenever something doesn't fit into her day, she gets mad or crazy. She needs to change her ways so Nick can be helped. My dad offered to talk to her about it, so she can always call him.

[Guest tank_abbott]

Runs in the family huh?

M.T.E.!

[Guest Mole]

Huh?

[Guest tank_abbott]

N/M

[Guest Choken One]

I know how that kid feels...I was picked on as a Kid because I was deaf...

 

But I over came that and people hardly even noticed it past the 5th grade.

[Guest Mole]

Your deaf Choken? I shouldn't say that's cool, but I just didn't know that.

[Guest Choken One]

Yep, I am deaf...

 

and No I don't know any Sign...

[Guest Mole]

No Sign? How do you communicate with people?

[Guest SP-1]

I have a friend who is 25% deaf in one ear and 75% in the other. You'd never know it with him either unless he told you.

[Guest Choken One]

I am 100% deaf in my right ear and 75% in left...and assisted via Hearing Aid.

 

It took ten years of intense Therepy to develop communication ability...

 

I am considered an Medical Marvel because of my advanced commucation skills...

 

Docs were shocked that I could speak fluidly and clearly at such an amazing level and that I excelled at English and Commuication skills further then of High School Advanced Placement levels...

 

I don't really like to brag about it but it's true...