Guest William E Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 How do you guy's feel about funerals? Do you try not to go to them out of fear or the sad environment? Do you go to funerals of people you don't know?
Guest Anglesault Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 How do you guy's feel about funerals? Do you try not to go to them out of fear or the sad environment? People like that disgust me. You are going there to pay last respects to someone you care about. Of course it's going to be sad. You don't think the people who actully cared enough and bothered to go to church are sad? "the sad environment" excuse is exactly that: an EXCUSE used bypeople who simply don't care.
Guest cynicalprofit Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 Lets see, if I die, I want a huge ass party, ZERO tears. My last bash needs to be my best. I hate funerals because everyone is always so bummed out, dude, they died, the sun still rises for you, MOVE ON. Been to 1 funeral on drugs, need to do that again.
Guest Flyboy Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 I avoid them at all costs. I only go to funerals of close relatives.
Guest MaxPower27 Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 I go, but I never know how to dress. When I went to my friend's grandfather's funeral, I wore khakis and a fairly nice dress shirt, and I found out from someone that overheard one of my friend's aunts saying that I should have worn a SUIT, with a TIE and all that.
Guest CoreyLazarus416 Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 Dress for the funeral as you think the person would have wanted you to dress. At my friend Timmay's wake and funeral, I wore all black, my leather jacket, etc. Basically, I wore what he usually saw me wearing: jeans, boots, metal shirt. That's how he would've wanted it. Same for Jeff. Jeff always saw me wearing jeans, boots, and a metal shirt, so why the fuck wouldn't I dress the same? But for my grandfather, I dressed up. Not only because he was family, not only because he was close family (saw him every few days, at least once a week), but also because he would have preferred me to look "nice" for once in my life. As for the people that use the excuse (as AS pointed out) that "it's too sad," they weren't worth KNOWING. It still pisses me off to no fucking end that Jeff's own FATHER didn't make it to his wake or his funeral.
Guest Flyboy Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 I go, but I never know how to dress. When I went to my friend's grandfather's funeral, I wore khakis and a fairly nice dress shirt, and I found out from someone that overheard one of my friend's aunts saying that I should have worn a SUIT, with a TIE and all that. What does it matter? They're not going to be looking at you.
Guest Vern Gagne Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 I go, but I never know how to dress. When I went to my friend's grandfather's funeral, I wore khakis and a fairly nice dress shirt, and I found out from someone that overheard one of my friend's aunts saying that I should have worn a SUIT, with a TIE and all that. What does it matter? They're not going to be looking at you. Well in Max's case I guess they did. I never got the having fun at a funeral? The person is dead, you'll never see that person again until you die. That's fucking sad, and just not time that I can have fun.
Guest Flyboy Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 I go, but I never know how to dress. When I went to my friend's grandfather's funeral, I wore khakis and a fairly nice dress shirt, and I found out from someone that overheard one of my friend's aunts saying that I should have worn a SUIT, with a TIE and all that. What does it matter? They're not going to be looking at you. Well in Max's case I guess they did. No, no. I meant the person who the funeral is for. If the friends and family of the person are too busy looking for ways to bitch about how someone dresses instead of paying their respects, they should not be there in the first place.
Guest Vern Gagne Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 I go, but I never know how to dress. When I went to my friend's grandfather's funeral, I wore khakis and a fairly nice dress shirt, and I found out from someone that overheard one of my friend's aunts saying that I should have worn a SUIT, with a TIE and all that. What does it matter? They're not going to be looking at you. Well in Max's case I guess they did. No, no. I meant the person who the funeral is for. If the friends and family of the person are too busy looking for ways to bitch about how someone dresses instead of paying their respects, they should not be there in the first place. Ok. I understand. Who would wanna watch their own funeral anyways.Think of all the fun stuff you could be doing. Why watch a bunch of people mourn.
Guest Choken One Posted May 25, 2003 Report Posted May 25, 2003 I always liked the idea of Paying your respect and then having a Party type deal... Where you get together and tell stories and shit...and dwell on it... As for dressing up... I usually wear Dockers and Dress Shirt for non-close people funerals... For close friends, relatives... I wear my Armani Suit...
Guest Nevermortal Posted May 26, 2003 Report Posted May 26, 2003 I just realized, if anyone near me were to die, I wouldn't have a damn thing to wear to their funeral, considering my wardrobe consists of hooded sweatshirts and non-dress pants.
Guest MaxPower27 Posted May 26, 2003 Report Posted May 26, 2003 I have ONE pair of dress pants and ONE dress shirt.
Guest Nevermortal Posted May 26, 2003 Report Posted May 26, 2003 I have ONE pair of dress pants and ONE dress shirt. You have me beat, Max Power.
Guest MaxPower27 Posted May 26, 2003 Report Posted May 26, 2003 I have ONE pair of dress pants and ONE dress shirt. You have me beat, Max Power. *bows* I got them at Walmart. Max is a smart shopper.
NYU Posted May 26, 2003 Report Posted May 26, 2003 Just to show you how my family was at my uncle's funeral last summer: -My grandmother crying to someone that now that her son died, she was all alone....while my father (her only son) sat in back of her. He then turned around and gave me a Thumbs-Up. -A few minutes later, my grandmother whispers to me "Boy, these funerals get boring after a while, don't they ?" -My grandmother (once again) sitting in front of my dead uncle and telling one of her friends that now that he's dead, she's worried that my father might screw up her bills. -My dad getting a little frustrated with my grandmother and telling my uncle(on my mom's side of the family) "Listen, I'll hold my mother, and you nail her." Then, he finally realized what he actually said and started laughing. .............it was an extremely sad time for my entire family, and there was a lot of crying at the funeral, but we tried to find a little humor in it as much as we could. Though my grandmother said some dumb things (though I seriously doubt it was intentional), we managed to find some funny things in it. My opinion: Funerals are an extremely sad time for everybody, but it doesn't mean a little humor can't be found in there as well.
Guest MaxPower27 Posted May 26, 2003 Report Posted May 26, 2003 I have a dark sense of humor anyway, I just hate dealing with repercussions of my speaking up, so I tell myself the jokes in my head.
Guest SweetNSexyDiva Posted May 26, 2003 Report Posted May 26, 2003 I just attended a funeral last Tuesday (in case any of you were wondering where I have been..or not ) My grandmother-in-law died after a battle with bone cancer as well as a brain tumor. In the end, it was almost a sigh of relief that she wasn't in any more pain. In my family, everything always has a splash of humor. When my aunt died in '96 we made the funeral a big party. The mortuary was taken aback! All these crazy people laughing and having a huge party. Don't get me wrong. There were tears. It took me a long time to really deal with it. I really had a break down at the casket. However, it is our tradition that the funeral is a time to swap stories and celebrate the person's life. And when it is my time, I am happy to know that is what my family will be doing. With my husband's family, it was a completely different story. I had a really hard time knowing what to do or how to act, knowing that any humor would be taken as disrespect. And it was hard for me to see that with his family there was a lot of argument over material things... who gets this or that. It made me sad. So, long story for a short question, funerals are difficult enough. I prefer not to go unless I knew the person. And I don't believe in wearing black to a funeral. Last tuesday I wore a beige dress with purple flowers and purple flowers painted on my finger nails. She would have wanted it that way.
Guest Agent of Oblivion Posted May 26, 2003 Report Posted May 26, 2003 I absolutely despise funerals, and have been to many. I just go, barely talk to anyone, deal with my own grief, and leave.
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