Guest TheDames7 Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Just go up to a girl and start talking to her. I've found that to be the most difficult thing to do, especially if you don't know her or see her just walking in the street. Has anyone ever had any success with this? This sort of stuff just fascinates me. Dames Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Flyboy Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Just go up to a girl and start talking to her. I've found that to be the most difficult thing to do, especially if you don't know her or see her just walking in the street. Has anyone ever had any success with this? This sort of stuff just fascinates me. Dames I have on occasion... it's a ballsy move, and can either go shitty or go well. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest TheDames7 Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Give me some examples, damn you. Dames Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Downhome Report post Posted July 3, 2002 I fully admit to never in my life doing that. I suppose my balls aren't as large as I once thought. I let them come to me, bwahahaha, yeah THAT'S the ticket. Seriously though, I just let it happen, don't just jump into it, it's not my style. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Kinetic Report post Posted July 3, 2002 I avoid those situations like death. The few times I've done that have been disastrous. I start sweating, lose all confidence, and just ramble like a lunatic. One time, I got so uncomfortable confronting a girl that I--as sort of knowing nod to my predicament--asked her if she ever felt like peeling off her own skin. She gave me this disgusted look, like I was a serial killer and wanted to turn her into a lamp. It was awful. So, as a general rule, I let them come to me or attempt to very casually find my way into a conversation. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Doomsault Report post Posted July 3, 2002 If I know her then it's no problem, but if I don't? Then well my answer is no, I do not have the balls. (runs of sobbing) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Incandenza Report post Posted July 3, 2002 I once went up to a cute girl in a bookstore and had a completely off-the-wall conversation that ranged from poetry to driving to grocery stores, and she mangaged to keep up with me every step of the way. I went it to it more as a sociological experiment than a serious attempt at hooking up; I honestly didn't think it would work, but I was curious to see how it turned out. With that in mind, I wasn't as nervous as I normally would have been, as I did not intend for it to work. Well, it worked, and she and I dated for about a year. I asked her on our "first" date why she agreed to see me again when most women probably would've thought I was just some freak, and she said she appreciated my original approach to striking up a conversation. So there you go. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest TheDames7 Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Ok...fugnuts, let me give you piss poor example. Actually, let me give you two. 1. Sophmore year of high school, there was this pretty girl that I had a crush on, but of course, I couldn't say anything. I kept telling my friends in the back of the class and they got so sick of me talking about it, they gave me an ultimatum. Talk to her after class or they would. Now, of course, I was feeling the pressure, so I walked up to her after class. I immediately started sweating....stammering. I said "Hi" and she said "hey". "I'm Damian, you're Jessica right?" "Yeah". At this point....i have no clue what to say as my friends are watching me. I start letting out "silent but deadlys" and I get petrified. I go into panic mode, say "ok, nice talking to you. Bye!" and run out the classroom. 2. Junior year, I tell my best friend Keith that I've found the most foolproof plan to go up to any girl and start a convo. I said that its the line "hey, do I know you from somewhere?" Of course, the answer will be no and then I can say, "are you sure? where are you from, whats your name, etc". He looks at me as if Hogan was asked to put over Funaki. So, i decide to test it out...I'm going home and there's this bangin ass chick walking across the street. I cross.... "Excuse me....do I know you from somewhere?" "Weren't you in my 5th grade class with Ms. Losak?" Dames: "Um...yeah...." "Oh my god, Damian, hi!" WTF!!! Next day...I walk up to this girl in front of the high school. "Excuse me, but do I know you from somewhere?" "You're Damian right? We went to 246 together!" I never used it again. Dames Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Flyboy Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Give me some examples, damn you. Dames Blah.. Well, most of the time they turn out like Kinetic's situation in my case... the last time I remember doing it is after a session of tutoring, I see this girl. She's about to leave, so I move next to her and try to talk to her. It went sort of shitty since she never did call me, so most of the time I just let them come to me unless I'm SUPER desperate. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Flyboy Report post Posted July 3, 2002 2. Junior year, I tell my best friend Keith that I've found the most foolproof plan to go up to any girl and start a convo. I said that its the line "hey, do I know you from somewhere?" Of course, the answer will be no and then I can say, "are you sure? where are you from, whats your name, etc". He looks at me as if Hogan was asked to put over Funaki. So, i decide to test it out...I'm going home and there's this bangin ass chick walking across the street. I cross.... "Excuse me....do I know you from somewhere?" "Weren't you in my 5th grade class with Ms. Losak?" Dames: "Um...yeah...." "Oh my god, Damian, hi!" WTF!!! Next day...I walk up to this girl in front of the high school. "Excuse me, but do I know you from somewhere?" "You're Damian right? We went to 246 together!" I never used it again. Dames LOL!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest EQ Report post Posted July 3, 2002 I cannot do this for my life... I'm getting a little better, but I'm still not anywhere near where I should be as far as being able to go up to a girl and strike up a convo... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Incandenza Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Geez, given all the other posts, I seem like some sort of ultra-confident stud. Believe me, I'm not. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest TheDames7 Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Incadenza....I've been with some good looking girls over the years and I have some friends who think I'm some sort of chick magnet.....I think its hilarious because I'm successful like 3% of the time. Dames Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest EQ Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Incadenza....I've been with some good looking girls over the years and I have some friends who think I'm some sort of chick magnet.....I think its hilarious because I'm successful like 3% of the time. Dames One of my friends was quoted as saying this: "Dude... Tell Damian to come up so he can get me girls" Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Incandenza Report post Posted July 3, 2002 The secret to my success that one day in March of 2001 was simple: luck. The idea of having a completely bizarre conversation with a strange girl had been tossed around among me and some pals, but none of us had bothered to do it. Still, we all thought it would be interesting to see how the proposed girl would react if it were to happen. Well, one day I was in a book store, and, something made me think of that idea my friends and I had. I saw a cute girl looking at a book, and, without giving it much thought--thought leads to being rational, which leads to me not talking to the girl because I know I'm going to look like a dumbass, sociological experiment be damned--I started talking to her about poetry (we were near the poetry section, though she was not looking at a poetry book). It turned out she was into poetry--I would later find out she wrote poems herself (good ones, too, not your typical "young woman ripping off Emily Dickinson or Sylvia Plath" crap that plagues many would-be poets)--and the conversation took off. I doubt that this approach would work now. The possibility of being successful like that again exists, but the only reason why it worked when it did was I hadn't planned on it. It was pure whimsy on my part, and whimsy is awfully hard to recreate. And though this little to do with anything, that girl is actually the oldest woman I've ever had a relationship with. I was 22 and she was 25 when we started dating. I didn't believe her at first; she didn't look a day over 19. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Will Scarlet Report post Posted July 3, 2002 I know I have done it twice before with some success. Both times in classes in my 1st year of college. The first time was with this blonde girl in a computer class. Basically, I am sitting there, waiting for the teacher to come, and this girl next to me seems to be interested in me, so I decide to strike up a conversation with her. It went on for a good twenty minutes(the teacher had apparently forgotten the class was even happening, and never showed.) It went well, the problem was that a. she was blonde, thus she looked like practically every other girl in the class, thus making it near impossible to find her since the class was huge. and b. the class was BORING because the teacher was mad that the class was so easy, so he made it really boring, so boring that you never wanted to attend class. It never really went anywhere, mainly because of those factors. The second time it happened was with this girl in the philosophy class I was taking. Basically, my first day there, I could swear I saw some brunette girl smile at me, but I could never find her again. So, one day, this girl shows up, so I figure, "Why not?" And her and I start talking. The conversation went okay. Her and I still talk on occasion whenever we share a class together, though it was not like things went all that far with her and I. Unfortunately, I have never had any situations like that since then that I took advantage of. Usually, I have to be fairly certain a girl has interest in me before I will talk to her. Times like these I miss high school when a few times I have had girls pretty much come up to me ,and basically say, "You're slowdancing with me and you have no choice in this matter." *sigh* I miss assertive women. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest pinnacleofallthingsmanly Report post Posted July 3, 2002 That Girls are Evil formula is wrong. It should say: Girls = Money + Time which throws the whole thing out of whack. Money = Time Girls = 2 (Money) Money = Evil^1/2 Girls = 2 (Money)^1/2 Things get kind of screwy from there. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest pinnacleofallthingsmanly Report post Posted July 3, 2002 I cannot do this for my life... I'm getting a little better, but I'm still not anywhere near where I should be as far as being able to go up to a girl and strike up a convo... Out of curiosity, where is it that you think you should be? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Zack Malibu Report post Posted July 3, 2002 It's not that tough for me. I remember back a few years, I was with a bunch of the guys, and we had a bet going as to who would talk to the most girls. Two of the numbnuts I was with, who thought they were "all that" were all chickenshit, like "No...YOU guys go first." So me and my friends brother went over and started randomly talking to two girls for a few minutes. Nothing came of it, other than the fact that we busted on the other guys the whole way home. I'm a pretty sociable person as it is, so I have no problems talking with people I don't know. It's usually later on that I find out I already know them somehow, or they know a friend/relative/pet/whatever of mine. I met my current girlfriend this way, as we just started talking one day at one of my hangouts, then I realized that she played soccer with my sister. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Ripper Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Well, when it come to striking up convos in some environments, like the first day of a college class, I was the master. My freshman year, EVERY sexy girl in EVERY one of my classes knew me. It made most of the other guys jealous, but there is no better way to strike up a convo than on the first day of college classes. Just the other day, I was walkin to my apartment(which is atop what is quite possibly the steepest hill in the history of man. If it were any steeper, it would be a fucking wall) and there was this extremely cute girl that got of the bus with me. So i hit her with "Hey, if you carry me up the hill, I'll owe you and carry you down it one day." She looked at me with astrange look but smiled(no woman can resist the dimples of Ripper when he smiles at them..NOONE) and kept on "no, seriously, I think its a good deal. I'll carry you down one day if you carry me up today..." by the time we got up the hill, We had talked about what we did for a living, where she was from, her relationship status, basically everything. Bottom line, if a girl wants to talk to you, they are looking for any excuse to do it, so anything dumb will work. And Dames...dude your name is Damien, you should be looking for any oppertunity to introduce yourself to women. My name is William, quite possibly the most pathetic name in the history of names. It is boring, no conversation about that. But Damien...dude. DUDE!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest TheDames7 Report post Posted July 3, 2002 It's Damian. I HATE it when my name is spelled wrong....HATE!!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Big Poppa Popick Report post Posted July 3, 2002 Actually, this has happened twice this year...my schedule is such that its pretty constant, so i pass by the same people everyday...after awhile of seeing the same 2 girls (one at a different point everyday, one around where i live and the other at the gym) to the point where we receognized each other...i just said, fuck it...and had a nice 10 minute conversation with em...Now im good friends with both, and talk to them all the time boo ya its just like...at least my attitude is...okay i see you all the time, and i say hi, but i dont know who im saying hi too or something Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Ripper Report post Posted July 3, 2002 I misspelled my name 3 times before I got it right in that post. I have to type the word receipts 20-30 times a day at my job and never spell it right. So it was nothing personal... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest dreamer420 Report post Posted July 3, 2002 yikes, he was only one letter off. i guess he knows for next time Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest AlwaysPissedOff Report post Posted July 3, 2002 1. Sophmore year of high school, there was this pretty girl that I had a crush on, but of course, I couldn't say anything. I kept telling my friends in the back of the class and they got so sick of me talking about it, they gave me an ultimatum. Talk to her after class or they would. Now, of course, I was feeling the pressure, so I walked up to her after class. I immediately started sweating....stammering. I said "Hi" and she said "hey". "I'm Damian, you're Jessica right?" "Yeah". At this point....i have no clue what to say as my friends are watching me. I start letting out "silent but deadlys" and I get petrified. I go into panic mode, say "ok, nice talking to you. Bye!" and run out the classroom. Man... I was laughing at this all day. Way to go, Dames-Meister. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest evenflowDDT Report post Posted July 3, 2002 I actually thought Dames' second example was funnier, but I digress. The irony of all my insecurities is that if I don't have any feelings for someone (which is what it is 95% of the time when you just go up to someone and talk to them out of the blue) I can say anything (albeit it's almost always in a mock playaz/pimp voice). E.G. One time my friends and I were at the movies and there were these freshmen from Mills (a local high school that we don't go to, this is important because it meant in my mind I could say whatever I wanted) that kept bothering us because they were checking out my best friend (who always gets all the girls after him... ARGH! ) Me: Hey gurlz, what's up? Girl #1: Not much Me: You like the movie? Girl #1: Yea, it was all right. Me: So, what's up? I noticed you kept looking at me. Girl #2: Well, actually our friend here (motions to Girl #3) was checking out your friend. Me: That's too bad. He's got a girlfriend, and I'm hotter anyway, it's just you can't tell now 'cuz it's dark. What school do you guys go to? Girl #1: We're freshmen at Mills. Me: Ugh... Never mind... if you were older I'd say let's hit that... well we gotta bounce. Late! Oh, I should note that I'm normally not such an asshole, it's just that when I say bothering us, they really were, they were throwing things at us. Why I could never know... then again, they were freshman girls. The irony is this is the best luck I've ever had. Most of the time I'm not even nervous so much as I don't have anything else to talk about unless the chemistry is there, like this girl I met (and will hopefully see next fall) at my college orientation. Most of the time I can't ask random questions other than "seasonal ones" (e.g. what's your major, what are you doing for spring break, etc.) without feeling like a fool, but I didn't get any of that at all this time... anyway, I'm rambling, but the moral of the story is that just because you can do it, still doesn't mean you can do it well. So far I'm batting 1 for about 35 this year. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest EQ Report post Posted July 4, 2002 Out of curiosity, where is it that you think you should be? At this point, I can't even bring myself to strike up a conversation with a girl I'm attracted to. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest dreamer420 Report post Posted July 4, 2002 i can usually end up meeting someone completely by accident. either bumping into a girl, or helping her with something. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest papacita Report post Posted July 4, 2002 I'm terrible at talking to girls period...which is really sad since most of the girls I know think I'm cute. Anyway, if I'm with my friends and I try to holla at a girl, I could do it for the simple fact that I don't wanna look stupid in front of my friends, but if I'm alone with the girl, it's real hard for me to talk to her. For example, there was this good looking girl who sat next to me in French class last semester that I really seemed to be hitting it off with. We used to get paired up all the time in class activities, and we'd talk a lot, and we were really starting to get along well, but I could never catch up with her outside of class. So this one day I came to class determined to try and get her number or something (neither of us live on campus). We didn't do any group work, so I didn't really get the chance to talk to her in class, but after class I managed to get her all alone in the elevator! Just me and her, nobody else around...... AND I FROZE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I basically just stood there looking stupid for a good minute or so until we just both got off the elevator, said bye and went to our next classes. This happened like a week or so before finals, and I saw her maybe once since this day (the teacher assigned 2 separate days to take the final and she went to the other one...), and we only spoke for a second because she had an appointment she had to get to. The best chance I had to get with this girl, and I blew it! Ah well...there's always next year. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest TheDames7 Report post Posted July 5, 2002 yikes, he was only one letter off. i guess he knows for next time Eh, its not a big deal Dames Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
