I got my wish

[Guest HBK16]

Ok I am bringing back the whole dating your best friend thing because I now am dating the girl that I have been wanting to. Thanks to a few people like Texas Small Arms and some others. But I don't even remember the last time I had a real relationship with someone I care so much about. I mean her whole family loves me so I am in good with them. But what are some good ideas to keep the relationship strong. It's not one of my better skills. I am kinda aiming towards a womens oppinion but I am sure a lot of guys can tell me what they have done to make a girl happy. Thanks guys.

[Guest DrTom]

To quote Al Pacino, as LTC Frank Slade in Scent of a Woman:

 

"You need to go down on her more. There's FIRE under that dress!"

 

Oh, you wanted serious advice? Um... yeah, it's best to get a girl's opinion. They're better at telling you what keeps them coming back than a single chap like me.

[Guest CoreyLazarus416]

Do what Gene Simmons did:

 

Get a cow's tongue surgically grafted onto yours...

[Guest Ravenbomb]

ewwww.

 

Two words, 16, Mouse Traps

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

Oh brother, well it looks like its back to me again, since you guys are thinking with the wrong head. Dr. Tom was right ask women. And congrats HBK, I figured she would come around. Now making the relationship work.

 

Number 1, and probably the biggest one is communication. It's not all about talking but understanding each other. You'll get to know each other and it always helps to have her in every part of your life.

 

Number 2, I would say is trust. you have to trust her and she will trust you. If she wanted to go out with the girls or something, don't get all defensive and pout (although I will say from personal experience that's a double standard because I have been known to do the same even though I know I shouldn't) Trust that she will use her best judgement.

 

Number 3, honesty. Be honest AT ALL TIMES with her. If you fuck up not too badly, you will be better off telling her then rather than waiting and having her find out about it from some other source. Because then you are really fucked.

 

Number 4, do things we like to do too. In every relationship there is give and take. Sometimes you will hate the things we want to do, but do some of them anyway. Chances are if we know you hated it but went with us anyway because you are a good boyfriend and love us, we will reward that very heavily.

 

Number 5, keep the relationship fresh. I know in the beginning everything is great and there is nothing to really worry about. Once you go on, however, the relationship could seem like you have been married for 15 years. So always try and keep that new couple feel alive. Do things that would surprise her or catch her slightly off guard, but sweet. Show her that you care about her so much (we love that)

 

Thats the way to keep the relationship good but also don't forget the key elements:

 

1. When she is leaving you or you are leaving her, kiss her long and use your tongue alot. That leaves us very turned on and thinking about you all the time so the next time we see you we want to do so much to you.

 

2. Do not stare at every hot chick that walks by us at the mall. We know she is pretty and we are aware you noticed her, don't make it obvious.

 

3. We like to be held. I don't think you need explaination on this.

 

4. Get to know her friends and let her know yours. The more you want to know about her, the more she knows you are really into her.

 

5. Since you are pretty much in with her family, keep it that way. Once she knows you and her family get along together well, she can relax more.

 

That's about all I can think of, I'm sure I will have more as the day goes on. Until then

[Guest welshjerichomark]

its such a cliche, but be yourself. seriously. and be nice to her friends

[Guest HBK16]

Thanks for all the advice. I just hop eit al works out great. We both lov being around each other and we already know a lot about each other, I have onlt met one of her friends so far. She lives about an hour away from me so I can only really see her a couple times a week. But the good thing about that is that she gets really excited when she sees me.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

That's cool HBK, just remember kiss her long everytime you leave, it'll make her wanting you THAT much more

[Guest T®ITEC]

its such a cliche, but be yourself. seriously. and be nice to her friends

Exactly. Don't be a dumb prick; that will put you above the majority right away.

[Guest The Old Me]

I'm not one of the best people to ask, but I do agree with the "be yourself" statement. I also agree with being nice to her friends. Because you can ALWAYS get with one of her friends when they break up.

[Guest Prime Time Andrew Doyle]

Because you can ALWAYS get with one of her friends when they break up.

Or you could get with one of her friends to break you up

[Guest HBK16]

Thanks again guys. I am pretty sure this will go good. We love being around each other and we have fun when we are with each other. It's just a matter of keeping it fresh. Thanks

[Guest Sandman9000]

All I can say is be careful. I know this doesn't apply to your situation anymore, but I highly recommend finding the Jurassic 5 song "Thin Line" and looking over the lyrics. You might find them helpful.

[Guest EricMM]

Do not take her/it for granted.

 

You need to like constantly woo her. In a way.

 

Take her on lots of dates, and junk. You don't have to always pay so you can afford it (assuming she works).

 

And I don't mean seeing movies and dinner. Thats fine, but you have to do other things. Not such passive things. Like going bowling, or other things you both like to do. They have to be fun dates, because eventually her/your presence isn't going to be enough all the time, you actually have to be DOING things on dates

 

Take her shopping. You already know something about her which is a bonus, BECAUSE, you need to take her shopping to know what she likes, so you can get her nice things when it's time to. You'll probably be dating still by X-mas, so you need to know what she wants. And flowers are always nice, but not for actual holidays (in my experiance if you know the holiday's coming, they expect you to get an actual gift) flowers are best when they're random. Flowers in ADDITION to a gift is just great tho

 

It's good to see you DON'T spend too much time together. I have friends who date who see each other every day. It's bad. So just remember, you both have lives outside each other, and that's important

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

Eric, I'm wondering if you have a girlfriend because you give damn good advice. You seem to hit the nail on the head on every point. What you said can go along with my long list of stuff earlier. Nice way of putting things together

[Guest Agent of Oblivion]

Grab her ass.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

there's a sound piece of advice

[Guest Cancer Marney]

Do not, repeat NOT, talk incessantly about sports. Not even fake "sports" like wrestling or golf. It's boring as hell.

[Guest cynicalprofit]

Dont try to have a friendship, have a relationship if you want to keep being with her on that level. Relationship will make friendship.

[Guest Cancer Marney]

Don't listen to the moron above, who has it backwards as usual. If you aren't friends, you shouldn't be lovers.

[Guest Leena]

Do not, repeat NOT, talk incessantly about sports. Not even fake "sports" like wrestling or golf. It's boring as hell.

I've been trying to find a guy who's boring like that... do you know any?

[Guest Sandman9000]

I heart sports.

[Guest Cancer Marney]

There you go, Leena.

[Guest Leena]

I think he would rather chop me in pieces, and enjoy watching me bleed to death.

[Guest cartman]

HBK, I know exactly how it is when you ,ive like an hour away from your girl. My girl lives in Framingham, MA and i'm in Pawtucket, RI...about 50 minute drive each way, so I only see her twice a week usually. It sucks, yet at the same time it's awesome. At this point in a relationship it's kinda good to have some space between and be able to have a life of your own too.

 

I love my girl and I would do anything for her, but it's helpful for us right now that we have to be apart in a way. It makes us love each other more, and miss each other more. Therefore when we do get together it's ALWAYS interesting and fun. We talk on the phone for a little bit before bed every night for the most part, and I love everything about our relationship right now.

 

I agree on the "girls night out" thing as well. Shes out with 3 of her girlfriends right now in fact, prepering for "Spirit Week" at school...doin their hair blue and white (school colors), and making cute outfits for themselves.

 

I have been a bit of the jealous type but I wont show it anymore because it only tears people apart. You need to have complete and total trust in each other, i'm learning that myself. It's really hard to trust someone though, especially when you have been screwed before. I'm working on it, and shes helping me greatly.

 

I'm rambling...

 

Anyways I wish you the best of luck because I know ho it is to love someone so much...This is the first time for me...True Love that is.

 

Texas, you are SO right about everything you say about most women. Never change!

 

Leena, there's alot of guys looking for a girl like you, who is into Sports bigtime. Trust me I woud love having someone like that. My gina isnt really a big sports fan but it makes no real difference to me as she will watch with me once in a while. She does, however, like to go to live games as opposed to watch them on TV. I kinda enjoy teaching her things about some sports as well.

[Guest Sandman9000]

Bah, Sandman is just as big of a basketball and baseball mark (and really isn't enjoying the World Series right now. Fucking Rally Monkey) as a blood mark. I'd just as soon go to a basketball game as watch people try to bleed to death.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

As much as I may be right, not all my advice works or at least not for me. Depressing night for numerous reasons (fucking Rally Monkey)

[Guest JHawk]

Do not, repeat NOT, talk incessantly about sports. Not even fake "sports" like wrestling or golf. It's boring as hell.

I've been trying to find a guy who's boring like that... do you know any?

Funny, I've been looking for a woman who's looking for a boring guy like that. Now if only there were some like that in Ohio...

[Guest HBK16]

Hey thanks for the advice cartman2092. I thought living far away would be a negative but I came to realize that when we see each other for the first time in like a week, its great. We are really into all the same things. Shes on the crazy side and a daredevil which I love. So we go clubing and bowling and shes gonna be watching me when I go skydiving on my 18th b-day. I am too a bit on the jealous side. Everytime I am not with her and I am trying to go to sleep on a Friday or Saturday night when shes with friends, I wonder what she is doing. Its not to healthy but if you knew how beautiful she is, you would worry too

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

HBK, I'm willing to bet she is the same way with you. I bet she does get jealous when you go out and do things with the guys. But remember just trust her and she will trust you. Everything will be cool. Long distances can be worked out, hell everyone here knows about mine and we have managed to work it out dispite the distance.