I got my wish

[Guest EricMM]

Nah I am single. I uh, don't get out too much.

 

I look fine, I just lack a life, and I'm not 21 so I can't bar it up or go to most shows.

 

Not that I'm really trying to hook up, I'd like to have a girlfriend, but I REALLY don't meet that many girls.

 

When I do things go very well, (we could talk about the party where I had the cousins on my lap, but uh, no ) so there's at least that.

 

Everyone sez: Eric, you're so nice, when you finally meet a girl you'll totally fall in love and get married. I'm like "AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!" But what the hell, I GUESS that's a compliment. Kinda. *shudder*

[Guest Agent of Oblivion]

Tellin' ya. Grabass.

 

Girls don't always want one of those guys that says shit like "Why do french daffodils always make me cry?"

[Guest cartman]

Trust me dude I know. Like I said my girl had her girls night out last night...and the 4 of them stayed at a Motel for the night. Imagine my thoughts? lol

 

I just trust her, I have to. If I don't, I lose her...and I am miserable without her. She loves me, she tells me just how much she loves me ALL the time. I have no reason to not believe her anymore.

 

I too get jealous because of her beauty, and her electrifying persona, but thats something you have to think of in a positive way. Be flattered when other guys want your girl. She gave me that advice the other day. I know there are guys who want my girl, some of them are friends of hers, but she wont do anything with them because she loves me. If she wanted them instead of me, she woulda been with them before I came around right?

[Guest Leena]

All of you are overexaggerating. Love is nothing more than finding another person that fits within the physical parameters to be desirable to you, so you can share orgasms.

 

All this sweet talk bullshit is manipulation on the male's part, and prostitution on the female's part.

 

Anyway, I have a hard time (irl) meeting guys who are into sports as much as I am. I've also noticed that some have gotten scared off since I knew more.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

Hey, I told him what really makes a relationship work, Eric did too. The rest are just showing their pervertedness (if thats a word) I know on how to make these kinds of relationships work.

[Guest cartman]

Well noone can MAKE relationships work. Real relationships should take WORK. They should come naturally I believe.

 

Yea at the same time I say this i'm "working" to keep my relationship going. I realize this, and I will change this.

 

Leena I'm a bit offended by your comments. Far be it from me to criticize someone else's beliefs but that's just such a negative way to think about Love. Love for me has been alot more than sexual. I have slept with, uh...too many girls, and none of them made me feel the way I have been feeling since I met my current girlfriend. It has nothing to do with her being "good" or whatever. It has everything to do with the feelings and emotions that we share for each other. Trust me there is ALOT more to love than orgasms and sexual pleasure.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

I know that relationships take work in order to work. The comments I gave will help, but nothing is set into stone. And I do 100% agree with you cartman about relationships are more than sex. Sure someone can easily knock that and say "Hell getting some is great" but knowing that you have someone that you truely love is something special. Most people look at the sexual aspect of the relationship and see if you aren't getting any that your relationship must suck or be dull. But connecting with someone on a deeper level is something truely amazing. What's even more amazing is when you can say you found your soul mate, your male/female counterpart. The person that completes you. You wouldn't need sex in order to make something like that work.

[Guest Leena]

I don't believe people have soulmates, but that may just be due to my heavy cynicism.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

I whole-heartedly believe eople have soulmates. I can atest to it. YOu may think it is a load of crap, but I'm willing to bet that you have never met someone that totally completes you, makes you feel so happy when you are with them. You say you can't seem to find a guy that is into sports as much as you are, but I'm willing to be there is someone out there that is. It may take time to actually find them, but there is a thing as soulmates. When you find someone that is your counterpart you will see all the pieces fall into place.

[Guest HBK16]

To tell you the truth, sex is the last thing on my mind when I am with her. I just enjoy being with her so much and love her company that sex doesnt even phase me. I mean don't get me wrong, I would love it but I know that we wouldnt do anything like that unless we would still be going out for a while. She tells me she doesnt want to think about it until she gets out of high school and I totally appreciate that. I am not gonna push her into anything.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

HBK that shows that you really and honestly do care deeply for her. I applaud you for not wanting to push her. Just enjoy her and everything will fall into place for you

[Guest HBK16]

Thanks again. Everyone. It helps a lot.

[Guest Agent of Oblivion]

The whole soulmate bit doesn't interest me at all. I'm solitary by nature, and don't require another person to make me feel good. Sex is sex, the rest of the whole relationship bit is an act to attempt to keep your other from fucking other people.

[Guest EricMM]

HBK that shows that you really and honestly do care deeply for her. I applaud you for not wanting to push her. Just enjoy her and everything will fall into place for you

 

I disagree. It's not inherently true that because someone isn't trying to have sex with you, that they like you. Sex is sex, and relationships are relationships. You can either without the other, or both.

 

Or how about it another way. He shouldn't be applauded for not trying to have sex with her, especially since she wouldn't give it to him anyways.

 

Nothing personal at all HBK, you're just an unfortunate example. But there are lots of reasons to date someone and yet not have sex with them. Girls do it a lot, it's called mooching.

 

Maybe this is overly pessimistic, but cheap sentiment has no place in real relationships, because it leads to cheap relationships. Emotions are far more important, it's not like you can make a relationship work "Because I didn't try to force you to have sex with me." It's just pretty irrelevant.

 

Now of course the opposite (trying to force her) is the opposite. But I guess it's just one of those things that you shouldn't expect a reward for IMO.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

But isn't it worth the wait? If you really wanted to have a relationship with her, it shouldn't matter if you are getting sex or not. I guess guys feel the need for sex, and the same can be said for most girls. But like some girls out there, she wants to wait. Talking her into sex or pressuring her would only get her upset. If you really wanted to get off you can always masturbate. I'm not a firm believer making sex a focal point or giving it up to the guy just because. Like I said just spending time with her and having a good time and things will fall into place and you'll be stronger

 

And I'm sure some of you don't ebelieve in my soulmates theory, and I'm just talking from my current personal experience. I just believe that there is someone out there that just connects with you in ways no other person can, but sometimes it does take awhile to find them.

[Guest cartman]

Took me quite a while to finally find the right girl for me...Now i;'m truly happy for the first time in my life. I definitely believe in the whole soulmates/true love thing.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

It does take awhile. To be honest 2 years ago, I thought I had found the man I was going to marry. Unfortunately, I was left in the dark about his past and was told on my 19th birthday that he had a wife in New York(Not exactly what you want to hear on your birthday) In February, I called it quits after numerous things went wrong and was heart broken. Until a chance meeting. At first I didn't think much of it and he and I became close as friends, and then he wanted to go further and he asked me out. At first I did say no, as my women's feelings kicked in and did want to ruin a good friendship. It didn't stop him though, he was there for me and showed me that us starting a relationship wouldn't hurt us, it would only help us. And he was right because a year and a half later we are still together and he is still right by my side in everything I do. And as most probably know he is the one that got my to this board as well. But I honestly do believe that we are soulmates. As crazy as it can sound he does complete me and I do him. Alot of times you have to go with your gut and others you have to go with your heart. At the end of the day, however, you will almost always go with your heart.

[Guest EricMM]

the single soulmate theory is BS.

 

One will probably eventually break up with one's "soulmate".

 

If you think you have more than one, then that's fine, although then you're decreasing the meaning of the word soulmate.

 

But I don't know ANYONE who has told me they've met their soulmate, then in a few years, hasn't broken up with them.

 

Like I said, cheap semantics. Feel good words. They're useless.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

And if you have a story like mine Eric?

[Guest EricMM]

Look.

 

Sorry.

 

I wish you the best.

 

But.

 

Give it time.

[Guest Leena]

I know you guys feel good and all, but another person cannot "complete" you. Happiness comes from within, and if you think someone else will do everything in their power just so you are happy for an extended time... you're kidding yourself.

 

I have dealt with a friend online that was soo sad when she wasn't with anyone... it was the end of the world. Then, she met a guy online, they knew each other for about 3 years, they'd travel cross-country to see each other every few months, and we're planning to get married. Of course, she got too dependent on him and they fought every day... and I had to hear about it every day. Finally, he broke up with her, and now she tells me how she's going to kill herself every day. Sorry for the long boring story, but the moral of it being dependent on someone to be happy leads to sadness.

 

The soulmate thing is B.S., and it's as simple to me as this: What's the first and foremost reason people get together? How they look.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

But Eric, if you go by that you are saying that no one is really happy. The people they do want to marry, end up dumping each other. That's if you go by that.

 

But I'm not talking about 2 high school kids that think they are in love, I'm talking about 2 adults that know they are in love. Midnight and I are very close, sure we have our fights like ever other couple in the world, but we are able to talk and work things out like adults.

 

You have your theory and are entitled to it, I'm in no position to tell you otherwise, but I can not wholeheartedly agree with it since I'm with someone that I can say I truely love and want to be with.

[Guest DrTom]

I'm going to paste the quote my buddy Cerebus the Aardvark has in his sig. It's quite relevant here, I think, and I happen to agree with it 100%.

 

"If you don't understand that you're the baker and your life is the bread--that you are the only one who can make you happy or unhappy...then you don't understand anything."

 

The soulmate idea is nice, but I believe that 1+1=2, not 1.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

And DrTom I do agree with that statement. I'm not saying that one person will ultimately make everything in your life great, because that's a lie. What I am saying is that one person could be the one that helps you through your life's journey. It just seems like the majority of you have had bad experiences and pretty much have given up on love altogether. Being that 2 years ago I was at what could be considered as a low point in my life, I found someone that fell in love with me. Wanted to be there for everything in my life, good or bad and he didn't stop til he got what he wanted.

[Guest DrTom]

What I am saying is that one person could be the one that helps you through your life's journey.

That sounds a LOT better than "soulmate." First off, I don't believe in souls; more importantly, the concept of a "soulmate" implies predestination, and I refuse to believe this tragic comedy we call life is scripted for us in advance.

 

It just seems like the majority of you have had bad experiences and pretty much have given up on love altogether.

I think everyone's had bad experiences at some point, and while I won't speak for anyone else, I haven't given up. I've come close a couple times, but something always pushes my cynicism back down just long enough. Damnit.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

Okay well then let's just go with the idea of spending the rest of your life with someone that will help you through your journey. It is a great feeling when you know you have met that person. They are willing to stand beside you in whatever you decided you want to do and never doubt you. Giving up on love is probably one of the worst things you could do, however loves comes when you aren't even looking for it. I just think nowadays people give up too easily just based on the fact that they were hurt once so the hell with getting hurt again. Sometimes the greatest risk is not taking one

[Guest EricMM]

As long as you understand that there is no one right person, and that there is possibly someone else who could lead you through life better...

 

Your definitions could easily apply to a best friend, not a girlfriend, perhaps even easier, because you're more likely to stay friends with someone whos not having sex with you, and they'll support you etc.

 

This whole concept just rubs me the wrong way.

 

I just feel that there are many girls who would be perfect for me. I take that to mean that there is not one person who would be perfect for me, because many could.

 

I believe love will provide a lot of happiness in my life. Don't get me wrong, I think that relationships are key, that's who we are. I don't feel that you can say that THIS THIS THIS person is the one, because what if you were born in another continent. What would you do then?

 

I guess I wouldn't bitch about this if you didn't use words like "soulmate" or "help you through lifes journey" they're cliche. And they're like ... easy outs. You could convey more simply by describing the relationship, cliches just make things seem hollow. Sorry.

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

I'm not saying that I understand anything, because that is not how I feel. I'm very happy in my relationship and I know he is the one guy for me. But when you do find the person you will be with for the rest of your life, your views will more than likely change. I could be wrong though.