Am I the only one with no friends?!

[Guest Texas Small Arms 09]

Or if you are old enough, go to a local bar...you can't beat the friends there. And if all else fails, get a pet

[Guest areacode212]

He already has a pet, and he's asking for advice on how to kill it, so that won't fly.

[Guest The Amazing Rando]

how about an imaginary friend...

 

I suggest a moon creature named 'Marcus Smith' that can freeze time and unfreeze burritos using his anal powers of flatulance and free speech

 

and he's a very good driver...

[Guest papacita]

Could always take up table dancing...

[Guest MaxPower27]

I'm certainly not complaining about not having any friends. I have a few, but they all live in Massachusetts, while I live in Florida. I still talk to them every now and then, but in the meantime, I work, go to school, as well as study my ass off, and occasionally go to a sports bar (which I'm going to have to do tomorrow night to see the Sens game. Fucking ESPN).

 

As for down here, a majority of people that I meet are shallow, narrow-minded people who only care about sex and drugs. Sure, sex is great, but it's not on my mind 24/7. I don't do drugs, so that kind of excludes me from that group. A majority of people listen to rap where I live, and I don't. That excludes me from that group as well.

 

All the people who like wrestling are hermits like myself, who are more than happy to stay at home and order a pizza on a friday night than to go out and get killed by a drunk driver. Most of the people who like the same music that I like don't even live around here, and the ones that come remotely close to it are still in high school.

 

All of the hockey and baseball fans that I talk to are mid-thirties+, and they hang out at the local sports bar that I go to sometimes. They like to get drunk, which I don't do.

 

See? I try, but I'm so used to being an introvert that I could care less whether or not I have someone to hang out with. I'd rather have my 4 or 5 close friends, who I can share anything with, tell anything to, and have them be there for me through thick and thin. Certainly that would be better than having 20+ acquaintances(sp?) who I know on a somewhat decent level, who don't know my problems, who don't know my past, and who don't know (or care) about my goals, my future, and I of theirs. That's what's important to me.

[Guest The Amazing Rando]

Could always take up table dancing...

where do you think all my cash comes from?

 

I am *YOUR* Sex God~!

[Guest Vitamin X]

As for down here, a majority of people that I meet are shallow, narrow-minded people who only care about sex and drugs. Sure, sex is great, but it's not on my mind 24/7. I don't do drugs, so that kind of excludes me from that group. A majority of people listen to rap where I live, and I don't. That excludes me from that group as well.

....

 

You're not from around the Miami area by any chance, are you?

 

(has found exact same sort of people living here after a month of moving from California..)

[Guest MaxPower27]

Cape Coral/Ft. Myers

 

I'm EAST COAST, BAYBEE

[Guest Vitamin X]

East coast here too...though I'm from Miami.. The closest city there is to the United States.

[Guest Mik at Cornell]

Those aren't really excuses guys. You can find any type of person anywhere. Shit, I'm not exactly in a hotbed of cool people. Just have to look.

I came to college all by myself and made a ton of friends, went to Australia for six months it was more of the same. I'll probably be moving to California for my PhD next year and I'm not at all worried about making friends.

 

I think blaming your situation is rationalization.

[Guest MaxPower27]

Dude, did you read my post?

 

I don't care that I don't have many friends, and I explained why in the last paragraph.

[Guest Mik at Cornell]

Well yeah, but if you have 4 or 5 close friends, you aren't exactly who I was referring to. These people have ZERO.

[Guest IDrinkRatsMilk]

I have no friends either. I have people who think they are my friends, but I'm just patting them on the back looking for a place to stick a knife. I'm so disgusted with the festering bile that society has become. I'm one bad day away from becoming a vigilante, and if that doesn't work out, I'm looking into a career as a hitman.

[Guest The Amazing Rando]

I thougth I was your friend IDRM...

 

*sulks*

[Guest El Satanico]

Well I have a feeling that you may be a Sammy Hagar fan.

 

I just simply can't allow a possible Hagar fan to be a friend of mine.

 

If I'm mistaken about you being a Sammy Hagar fan then please accept my apology.

[Guest Agent of Oblivion]

I've got a few friends, but I hardly ever see them. I'm kind of a schizoid anyway, and work third shift, so that neutralizes most activities.

 

I go out maybe once or twice a week, talk to a couple buds, but that's about it. The rest of the time, I'm by myself. Happily.

 

..and Mik, I have to SERIOUSLY disagree with the remark that life is all about personal interaction. In my book, it's way more important to enjoy your own company, than to enjoy the company of others.

[Guest Mik at Cornell]

Well, sure it's important to enjoy your own company, but what are the things people remember most about their life? Holidays, weddings, parties, events that involve interactions between other people.

 

I know for me, personally, I won't be truly happy in life without a good set of friends and a great family. Some people might think otherwise, but hey. I really believe inter-personal relationships are the foundation of life.

 

They also help you to feel more comfortable around yourself. I think this holds true for everyone, you just have to let it happen.

 

I think anyone who says they don't want any friends is lying because they're upset that they don't have any. It's a classic rationalization technique.

 

You can disagree with me, and that's totally cool. I'll just say we have differing opinions, but dealing with other people in a meaningful way makes the world go round.

 

[/advice columnist]

[Guest MaxPower27]

Actually, some of the worst nights of my life have been my senior prom, the party afterwards, as well as other random parties.

[Guest SP-1]

Prom can die and go to hell.

[Guest Plushy Al Logan]

Mario, are you in school? There should be at least one person there who would want to be your friend.  Or you could like get a job. You're bound to meet people at your work and maybe they might like you!

Yes I'm in school, and no I'm "unemployable" for some reason. I have worked before, only because I knew people. I applied at Wal Mart, McDonalds, the Disney Store, Best Buy, and Toys 'R Us, and they all said that I'm unemployable, and unfriendly, according to my previous boss, who happens to be a bigger loser than me. He's a huge bodybuilder, and he is 28, and has been divorced three times.

 

 

Well I have a feeling that you may be a Sammy Hagar fan.

 

I just simply can't allow a possible Hagar fan to be a friend of mine.

 

If I'm mistaken about you being a Sammy Hagar fan then please accept my apology.

 

Yes.

 

I had friends up until I moved away after my Junior High School Graduation. The people there was just such assholes, so I stayed quiet (big fucking mistake!), around the time of the Columbine Shootings, people fingered on me being a possible suspect, despite ever having only few words with me, this continued on until my senior year, when people stopped caring; throughout this time a couple of "brave" people mocked me, but they were obvios jackasses so I ignored them.

 

My father dissapeared a month before my graduation, and I worried that no one would show up, but my mother, and cousins showed up. Two days later I found out that he had been secretely manufacturing Crystal Meth, and when he was arrested, all of our money dissapeared, but since I got ahold of some financial aid, I went to a University in San Diego.

 

I made friends there, but my roomate cried to me that he was going to be kicked out, if he didn't have $500, so I lent it to him (biggest mistake ever), the son of a bitch bought himself a Playstation 2 and acted like a snob with me for the rest of the school year. I signed up for the Marine Corps reserve, I was supposed to ship out August of last summer, but I hurt my leg, and was let go a month before being sent to Recruit training. My leg has not fully recovered, I can still move, but it hurts really badly when I run.

 

I moved back to my original home after fucking up, but I got a few units, so t isn't all that bad. My neighborhood turned to shit, after my father was arrested, I recently found out, that most of my toys, and books were stolen. My father's "business partner" stopped talking to us, and helping my brothers out, and the fat bastard lives across the street from me. I have tried looking for a job, but again I'm "unemployable." I recently enrolled in a community College, where I'm at to this day.

 

My cousin lost his house, because he just straight out refused to pay the rent. My grandmother felt sorry for him, and we let him move in with his mother (another mistake made!). He holds back on the rent, but we get it too late, but he pays no utillities, despite the fact he runs the elcetricty 24/7, and uses power tools at night, he also never buys food. His mother stoppped walking, and refuses to bathe (ack!). His friends are all people that my father helped, one of them was finally busted by the Feds for crdeit card theft/fraud, and my cousin just abandoned him. ANother one, is a person who stole from me, but I've been held back from kicking her ass. Another one of his friends is a 16-year old prostitute, who is at the house every day, and eats our food, again I've been held back from going after her too, I just can't stand her attitude, she comes from a wealthy family, and her boyfriend is also wealthy. Back to the guy who commited credit theft/fraud, my cousin bought a bird, and that fucking kitten with that stolen credit, and his bird, is as bad as his cat, it fucking chirps all night, leaving me with only a few hours sleep.

 

That's what's happened throughout my life, I'am speaking to a Psychologist about all of this. Eveything in Italics, is whats bothering me to this day.

[Guest caboose]

There was a time when I had no friends. I specifically saw fit to cut myself of from my friends most of which I had known for over a decade. I didn't trust them because of incidents where I had been painted as the bad guy, when I had in fact saved the situation. After a few hundred phone calls, I was talked into returning to the group of friends. But to this day, I don't trust them as much as I did, and new friends I've made at University I don't trust as much as I perhaps should. Times like this can be very harrowing to young people, and my best advice is to go out and find at least one friend you can rely upon, and can depend on you. Do whatever it takes, and never try to do anything to risk the friendship. I may never have a good friend again nor a girlfriend because of what happened to me, and I'd hate to see it to someone else.

[Guest Choken One]

I used to have SERIOUS problems developing friends because I didn't stay at Home during the summer. I had like ONE friend, And he was my Cousin by Marriage.

 

When I got like 17, I finally shot up from being 5'2 to 5'11 and fully grown my Jericho sized beard and shaved my head (I.E, An Makeover)...I become more confident as I finally asked this girl whom kinda been "close" with for years out and I wound up marrying her.

 

I became friends with her brother (whom Died A a couple years ago) and became tight with his friends. I didn't go to college although I could have easily been accepeted.

 

Now, Since I don't go out that much mainly because of my fear of Society...I tend to have my friendships with my co-workers but it's not the same since they work for me so I can't always tell who is straight up.

 

As for those friends of my Brother in Law...I see them once in awhile but some already have kids and a couple actually were lovers (boy/girl) and we never knew for the three years they were together...They got married and moved away.

 

As for my Cousin from eariler? Still my best friend.

 

I agree with whoever said Join a Club or team. If there is an interest they don't have a club for...Start one...Get a teacher to sponser it and there you can find friends.

 

I played Football and Baseball but never really were "Friends", I mean, We hung out and shit but I never had that "Friend" feel with them...

[Guest Edwin MacPhisto]

...

 

Y'all be fucked up.

 

::listens to Prince::

[Guest Agent of Oblivion]

Hey, if you're really desperate for friends, take up smoking or hang around smoking circles outside of dorms and businesses.. I've met a few pals, and 2 girlfriends by virture of smoking outside with a group of people.

[Guest TheZsaszHorsemen]

The titles say it all.

Get out of the house, you fucking dork.

Oh yes, that seems to be the answer to any person with no friends, ie me. Whenever I hear that, I reply "And do what?" To which I usually get a blank look. Within walking distance, we have a Rite Aid, a Family Video, a Pet Store, and a Dollar Store. No fun to walk to those with no money.

 

Or, you get the "Well, talk to people" bullshit. Hey, why should I talk to someone? They wanna talk to me, they know where I am. Besides, friends are just annoying. I'd rather stick to my online roleplay buddies.

You get out of life what you put into it. If you go out with the intention of failing... you'll most likely fail.

 

That said, don't you go to school? There are kids there, I hear.

[Guest Rob Edwards]

Inter-Human relationships are what make life worth living imo, sure some people are untrustworthy but you live and learn in that regard

 

For me you need at least 10-20 people you'd call your freinds and speak to at least once a fortnight with 3-5 closer freinds who you'd trust with your life if it came to it

 

I've seen worse though, A guy who posts at my board won't even go OUTSIDE let alone pursue personal relationships with people

[Guest Vitamin X]

Mario, are you in school? There should be at least one person there who would want to be your friend.  Or you could like get a job. You're bound to meet people at your work and maybe they might like you!

Yes I'm in school, and no I'm "unemployable" for some reason. I have worked before, only because I knew people. I applied at Wal Mart, McDonalds, the Disney Store, Best Buy, and Toys 'R Us, and they all said that I'm unemployable, and unfriendly, according to my previous boss, who happens to be a bigger loser than me. He's a huge bodybuilder, and he is 28, and has been divorced three times.

 

 

Well I have a feeling that you may be a Sammy Hagar fan.

 

I just simply can't allow a possible Hagar fan to be a friend of mine.

 

If I'm mistaken about you being a Sammy Hagar fan then please accept my apology.

 

Yes.

 

I had friends up until I moved away after my Junior High School Graduation. The people there was just such assholes, so I stayed quiet (big fucking mistake!), around the time of the Columbine Shootings, people fingered on me being a possible suspect, despite ever having only few words with me, this continued on until my senior year, when people stopped caring; throughout this time a couple of "brave" people mocked me, but they were obvios jackasses so I ignored them.

 

My father dissapeared a month before my graduation, and I worried that no one would show up, but my mother, and cousins showed up. Two days later I found out that he had been secretely manufacturing Crystal Meth, and when he was arrested, all of our money dissapeared, but since I got ahold of some financial aid, I went to a University in San Diego.

 

I made friends there, but my roomate cried to me that he was going to be kicked out, if he didn't have $500, so I lent it to him (biggest mistake ever), the son of a bitch bought himself a Playstation 2 and acted like a snob with me for the rest of the school year. I signed up for the Marine Corps reserve, I was supposed to ship out August of last summer, but I hurt my leg, and was let go a month before being sent to Recruit training. My leg has not fully recovered, I can still move, but it hurts really badly when I run.

 

I moved back to my original home after fucking up, but I got a few units, so t isn't all that bad. My neighborhood turned to shit, after my father was arrested, I recently found out, that most of my toys, and books were stolen. My father's "business partner" stopped talking to us, and helping my brothers out, and the fat bastard lives across the street from me. I have tried looking for a job, but again I'm "unemployable." I recently enrolled in a community College, where I'm at to this day.

 

My cousin lost his house, because he just straight out refused to pay the rent. My grandmother felt sorry for him, and we let him move in with his mother (another mistake made!). He holds back on the rent, but we get it too late, but he pays no utillities, despite the fact he runs the elcetricty 24/7, and uses power tools at night, he also never buys food. His mother stoppped walking, and refuses to bathe (ack!). His friends are all people that my father helped, one of them was finally busted by the Feds for crdeit card theft/fraud, and my cousin just abandoned him. ANother one, is a person who stole from me, but I've been held back from kicking her ass. Another one of his friends is a 16-year old prostitute, who is at the house every day, and eats our food, again I've been held back from going after her too, I just can't stand her attitude, she comes from a wealthy family, and her boyfriend is also wealthy. Back to the guy who commited credit theft/fraud, my cousin bought a bird, and that fucking kitten with that stolen credit, and his bird, is as bad as his cat, it fucking chirps all night, leaving me with only a few hours sleep.

 

That's what's happened throughout my life, I'am speaking to a Psychologist about all of this. Eveything in Italics, is whats bothering me to this day.

Bad, bad lifestyle choices are what it comes down to. It's surprising how much your lfie and mine are similar, what with involvement with crystal meth and everything (your daddy made it, my friends bought it, I smoked a lot of it) , and psychologists and all. Even down to the Marines and getting kicked out (though I was 2 months into boot camp and got kicked out for something that had happened 3 years before that my recruiter told me to lie about-so I was discharged on grounds of fradulent enlistment. Fuck the military).

 

If you want to talk about it in more detail, feel free to IM me. But otherwise, here's what I have to tell you..pretty much, a large portion if not all of the things that are bad in our lives occur as a consequence of a choice we made at that particular time or not. And there's two ways of looking at it...you can be frustrated that you can't do something about it, or you can't be frustrated about it, because there's nothing you can do. The latter is of course, the more positive and should be the correct way of viewing it. You may sit there and lok at your famiyl and all the things that have happened but you also have to be able to accept responsibility for the bad things that YOU have done, and the mistakes that YOU have made, and move on. And the things you can't do anythign about, I already told you what to do in that regard.

 

So that's step 1..gain confidence, stop looking back at the past and all your failures and stating them as reasons for your supposed failure in life, and think about how you may be able to turn thigns around. That cynical, negative outlook will get you nowhere in life, and if you don't have any friends, oh well fuck it. It's not a human necessity to have friends..you can have food, shelter, and clothing, but keep your famiyl strong if you have no friends. When I moved here to Miami, I can still say quite honestly I don't have any actual friends yet, but the support of my family here has helped me through a lot of shit and helped me get back on track.

 

So keep that in mind.