This is a two-way street, Mole. I'm very sorry for your loss, and Tank Abbott, or anybody who has such little class to do what he did, deserves a banning. However, I would have taken up the issue personally with someone like The Dames, Dr. Tom, or another moderator of the site. I too would feel angered by his actions, but this was probably something best served to deal with in private with a mod. You only exposed yourself to more criticism, which I'm sure you did not want.
-Tiff