What would you do in this situation

[Guest Italian Stallion]

Ok I got caught in a situation no boyfriend/husband wants to get stuck in.

 

If this needs to be moved to LSD go ahead. It can go either way really.

 

 

I have been together with my girl for almost two years. I know this is the girl for me. We both love each other and someday hope to pop her the big question.

 

Ok so she is at work and all the cooks, and I mean 4 by all pf them, like her. They all think she is pretty and they all want her. They all know she has a boyfriend, me. And they know that we are in a really good relationship. Every day when she goes to work they ask her if she has broken up with me and bug her to break up with me. I dont think it has gotten much worse than that but it still bothers me that they do that shit to her. And she cant stand them but she NEVER and I mean never stands up for herself. It makes me mad but when people do this kind of stuff to her she just laughs it off with them and doesnt tell them to stop. It bugs me. Anyways, she was at work the other day and she goes into the back room to get napkins and a cook follows her back there and puts a sausage in his pants and unzips it. When she turns around she first thought it was his dick so she screamed. Then he says "lets fuck." She told them it was sick and left.

 

 

I think she did the wrong thing there. Thats sexual fucking harrasment in the work place and he can get fired for that. When she told me when she got hom she went off like it was no big fucking deal. But what makes me more mad is she doesnt do anything about it then expects me to be fine with it. FUCK THAT!

 

So I go to her work with a few friends. Bring a bat with and scare the fucking shit out of this kid. He goes off saying that he would fight me if he had the bat. So I throw the bat at him up high and when he looks up I punch him in the face. Punch, punch, punch. Hit him in the leg with the bat and told him to like his new wheelchair.

 

Ok he didnt end up in a wheelchair but had a pretty bad bruise. And a pretty fucked up face. As I left my friend decided to throw in a few of his.

 

I wanted to hear your oppinion on this. No matter if its the way I reacted, if you agree with what I did, under reacted, over reacted, of my girl is under reacting or what.

 

 

I also got the kid fired because I pulled him off of work and did this. When the manager found out why he was fired.

[Ripper 0]

Of course, if he calls the cops someone will be telling you to look at their sausage for awhile.

 

Not only is what you did stupid, it was criminally stupid. Someone trys to attack someone you care about, violence might be the answer. But getting the kid fired was more than enough in this situation.

 

When Bubba and 'Twan are hitting on you everyday in the prison yard, you better believe she isn't going to show up with her girls and a bat...

 

but if she does, marry her.

[Red Hot Thumbtack In The Eye 0]

Good job hero boy. You could have just gotten the kid fired for harassment, but you went ahead and asserted your property lines very well on top of it. Don't be suprised when she comes home one day with the classifieds in hand looking for a new job herself(that is of course if her employer has any sense) though.

[Guest Italian Stallion]

I didnt get in trouble for what I did. The cops weren't even called. The kid was 18 so I couldn't have gotten in any trouble really. The only thing maybe would be assult cuz I did use the bat. And my other 5 friends all had clubs and golf clubs with them.

 

I went there to just scare him but he challenged me. I wasnt going to make the guys get in on him with the weapons. I did give him the bat. He never got to touch it.

[Guest Italian Stallion]

Shes been looking for a new job for a while. Shes not quiting though until she finds one.

[Red Hot Thumbtack In The Eye 0]

The only thing maybe would be assult cuz I did use the bat. And my other 5 friends all had clubs and golf clubs with them.

 

Conspiracy, assault(aggravated), assault with deadly weapon, etc etc.

 

I went there to just scare him but he challenged me. I wasnt going to make the guys get in on him with the weapons. I did give him the bat. He never got to touch it.

 

First the kid is stupid for challenging 5 guys with weapons.

 

Second, you WERE 5 GUYS WITH FUCKING WEAPONS. This kid challenges you, do you really need to do anything? You know you're gonna fuck him up if you go after him. He's probably shitting his pants no matter what he says.

 

 

Is your girlfriend not grown up enough to be able to handle this shit on her own? I mean what are you guys gonna do when she orders a happy meal and doesn't get the prize?

[Guest Salacious Crumb]

You could've done more damage to the guy by getting him fired for sexual harrassment. That would follow him around.

 

Now you could get arrested or this guy could be out for revenge.

[Guest stardust]

Well, for one thing, your girlfriend needs to learn to stand up for herself. That was blatant sexual harrassment and not only could've gotten the one guy fired, but possibly could've gotten the manager in a world of shit for allowing it to happen.

 

Second, what you did was stupid. Yeah, you felt like you needed to defend your girlfriend or claim your territory or whatever, but quite honestly, you should've just made her realize that what the guy did in the first place was wrong and helped her to find the courage to stand up for herself and deal with her issue herself. You can't always be there to "protect" her, and she's gotta learn to stand up for herself and be aggressive when it's warranted, and it was definitely warranted in that situation.

[justsoyouknow 0]

You may have gone a little too far with beating the shit out of the guy, but I could understand the anger and everything. Getting hime fired probably would have been much easier...hopefully he doesn't press charges.

[Red Hot Thumbtack In The Eye 0]

No, hopefully the kid DOES press charges. And really, if he's desperate enough to fight this kid, get him in a dark alley 1v1.

[Guest Insanityman]

Well, dude, no heavy offense, but screw you. I've BEEN in that "older guys with weapons" threatening situation. I mean what he did deserves to be fired, not a beat down with weapons. Okay, my friends picked a fight with another group who brought their older gang brothers with knives and chains. I stood my ground and I'm damn lucky they never attacked me. This whole thing is STILL going on and even though I live off this shit- I know how bad it feels. I never really did anything but stood up for friends (make any "aaww hero" or "noble" jokes and I'll want to kill you).

 

Seriously though man I hope he doesn't go get his connections and comes after you. Think you're all unfuckwithable like this group after my friends and I think- but I know firsthand the underdogs can definely cause some damage.

 

Did you really need weapons to even scare him? You'd figure you'd be able to take him down with your fists, etc. Whatever man, but I think you could of handled it better.

 

(Side note: I don't want to dwell on this situation or get any abuse from you guys- I'm just saying from both perspectives).

[justsoyouknow 0]

Violence generally isn't the answer, and he made a mistake by losing his temper like that. I've been there millions of times, and once you get into the moment, you can't control yourself and you just snap. When it comes to females, guys have a tendency to become incredibly overprotective, and they don't think before they act. If you actually sat and think about this, it's a very, very stupid idea. But when you're in the moment, it seems like a great idea, to teach the little shit a lesson.

 

Something like this happened to me awhile back. I was getting coffee with this girl, and her ex-boyfriend showed up with his band. The kid decided to start giving me dirty looks, since I'd met him when the two were going out, and never got along with him then. I get up to go take a piss, and when I come back, he's sitting in my chair, talking to the girl I'm out with. I inform him that he's in my fucking chair, and he tells me that I'm not allowed to see her anymore. Then he turns to her and tells her that she's not allowed to see me anymore. I wanted to beat the shit out of this kid...but cooler heads prevailed.

 

Had you actually thought out the situation at hand, you probably would have ended up much better off. Violence is only neccessary in extreme situations.

[Guest Italian Stallion]

He did get fired for sexual harrasment and she is being treated much better at work.

 

Second, I dont let people fuck with me or my people. Im not a punk kid scaring people. I have been in it. I dont hang around one person who hasnt either killed someone or seriously hurt someone for their belief. Im not the kind of guy you wanna fuck with. I meant beusiness with this guy and I am not afraid of what he can do or what he can bring. I have owned a fucking bulletproof vest since I was 17 and lived in Jersey. Im not afraid of what he can do. Im not a gangster. Im fucking Italian. And you fuck with me your gonna fuck with all of my guys.

 

I dont mean to sound like a mobster because Im not, I guess just a crew if you even wanna give us a name. I am just explaining my past and how I live and how I do things. If he wants to bring anything further I will be glad to go one on one.

 

 

And I agree with you Stardust because she has a problem with not standing up for herself. She could have atleast said dont do that kind of stuff to her. I dont know what it is and standing up for herself. Something I hope I can fix though.

[Red Hot Thumbtack In The Eye 0]

Big fucking man

[Guest Insanityman]

...Dude one day you'll run your mouth to the wrong guy. Besides, I'm used to getting death threats and shit, I'm not saying I'm "hardcore" or anything, but I know from experience you can't think no one can fuck with you. You're wrong, people can. You fuck with me and you're fucking with a lot of other people... but that doesn't protect us from an older gang. Well I realized how much ego I had 'cause everyone who ever messed with me before was my age and easy to beat up or talk out of.

 

They hit my girlfriend, I freaked out, I understand. Dude, I'm fucking Irish- doesn't mean I can kneecap people or down more whiskey than possible. Don't do the "I'm fucking Italian" thing, I know where you're coming from- you're proud, that's great. But one day you'll make a mistake. Just watch yourself.

[Guest Italian Stallion]

Sorry if that made me sound like Im thinking Im a big man and all that shit. I didnt mean to. I just have a close group of people I go with, all Italian, it sometimes goes to our heads, sure, but we know we are serious about defending ourselves and people we care about.

 

Sorry though if I gave off the wrong impression. I dont think Im a bad mother fucker just because Im Italian and I roll with all Italians. Friends of ours who arent in our group call us a mob and we get that name but we arent. We just happen to be proud.

[Red Hot Thumbtack In The Eye 0]

And a little hot headed.

 

But at least you aren't trying to internet thug me

[Guest stardust]

And I agree with you Stardust because she has a problem with not standing up for herself. She could have atleast said dont do that kind of stuff to her. I dont know what it is and standing up for herself. Something I hope I can fix though.

I'm glad you agree with me on that issue, but something you said bothered me in that statement. It's not your place to fix her problems with not being able to stand up for herself. And I'm hoping that you meant that you want to help her learn to be more assertive and to stand up for herself. Basically, you've gotta encourage her to stand up for herself and to stop taking so much shit from people. I mean, I know that I can take quite a bit of shit from people before it really starts getting to me, as I tend to just laugh it off, because for the most part it just isn't worth my time or anxiety. And it's fine to just ignore people sometimes, because that's often more effective, especially in stupid situations. But in a situation like the one your girlfriend was in, every female needs to know that they don't have to take that kind of bullshit, and that there are laws in place that will protect her against stuff like that (and yes, it does work both ways for guys, too...it isn't as common, but there have been men who have won sexual harrassment law suits). At least the guy got fired for doing so, and she's being treated better at work (which is actually an odd occurance, most of the time when one person gets fired for something like sexual harrassment, it only causes more harrassment, it just isn't as blatant, and it may take a while for the shoes to start dropping, but they might still drop sooner or later from the other guys who've been harrassing her).

 

Assertiveness is something that, I think for a lot of women, takes a while to get comfortable with (I'm still not comfortable with being assertive in some situations), but encourage her to be assertive and to stand up for herself, and be vocal about what she wants and doesn't want. If she can be assertive with you, and then with her friends and family, it makes it a lot easier to be assertive with people she isn't close to. But it isn't something you can just "fix"--it takes some time, trust me.

[Guest Italian Stallion]

Stardust- I said I hope I can help her. I dont want her to take that kind of shit from everyone.

 

 

And I also agre with you saying after a situation like that, they would only get more harrasment from people. But Im guessing we made a statement when we walked into a restaurant with weapons like that and looked like we didnt give a shit. I dont know but Im guessing we just made it clear for everyone too.

[Zack Malibu 0]

Cars, mafia, and stupid/illegal actions?

 

I TOLD YOU this guy is HBK16.

 

And let me tell you this, I don't give a flying fuck if you run with "all Italians". As an Italian myself, being a wiseass and bragging about shit on an internet message board that spans the entire free world is something that would get you killed in the real Mafia. When you do shit, you most certainly do not brag about it.

[Guest stardust]

And I agree with you Stardust because she has a problem with not standing up for herself.  She could have atleast said dont do that kind of stuff to her.  I dont know what it is and standing up for herself.  Something I hope I can fix though.

 

Semantics, I know, and I'm not trying to be a bitch about it, just pointing out the statement that bugged me. And like I said, I figured you meant you wanted to help her, and not "fix" it, but in case the former wasn't your intention and the latter was...yeah...

 

As for sending out a "message"...messages only last so long. Yeah, it probably did trip those guys out to see y'all come in their with baseball bats and stuff, and after having one of their coworkers beat down, yeah, they might be a little scared right now, especially since management is probably watching them pretty closely, too. But it'll only last so long (sorry to sound pessimistic here, but it's just the way people and organizations work) before someone starts to wanna see how much he can get away with, and start pushing boundaries. And once he figures out he can get away with this much, his cohorts will start pushing, too. And hopefully your girlfriend will have a different (and better) job by the time that happens, and hopefully she won't have to deal with that kind of crap ever again. Just try to caution her to not get too comfortable at work and start thinking everything's fine, because just as soon as she does, someone else will be behind her with a sausage (or worse) sticking out of his pants.

[TSA09 0]

OJ was still better

[Guest Italian Stallion]

Cars, mafia, and stupid/illegal actions?

 

I TOLD YOU this guy is HBK16.

 

And let me tell you this, I don't give a flying fuck if you run with "all Italians". As an Italian myself, being a wiseass and bragging about shit on an internet message board that spans the entire free world is something that would get you killed in the real Mafia. When you do shit, you most certainly do not brag about it.

Dude whats your problem. Im not bragging about doing this, I said Im NOT in a mafia, and I only posted once about cars.

 

 

I didnt brag about anything to you guys. I wanted to see how you guys would have handled things.

 

And dont even bring that real mafia shit because I said I am not in a mafia and not even close.

[Red Hot Thumbtack In The Eye 0]

Zack Malibu Posted on Sep 10 2003, 04:20 PM

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Cars, mafia, and stupid/illegal actions?

 

I TOLD YOU this guy is HBK16.

 

This guy can't be HBK16

 

HBK would be a yakuza is anything..

[justsoyouknow 0]

I demand pictures of his hands.

[Guest Random Hero]

Personally I think If you'd gone to see the guy on your own and just had a quiet word with him making clear your feelings, all this sillyness could've been avoided. Just made it clear that what he was doing wasn't on and that it needed to stop. If he didn't listen to that and continued to do stuff, then he's obviously an asshole. Proceed to beat the shit out of him with anything you can lay your hands on.

 

Or grab his cock and wink at him.

 

I'm in the mafia...listen to me

 

Randomino Heroano

[kkktookmybabyaway 0]

IS, what you did will be said by many to be stupid, but if this happened to my better half I probably would have done the same thing.

 

Although perhaps you should have had your better half report this, and if the harrassment continued get a scumbag lawyer and SUE THE PLACE BLIND...

[Guest Random Hero]

Although perhaps you should have had your better half report this, and if the harrassment continued get a scumbag lawyer and SUE THE PLACE BLIND...

 

Or take Paulie and Vito down there and fuck their shit up...again.

[Anakin Flair 0]

Uh, I think you over-reacted just a tad.

But the trick with the bat, that was gold. Cheat to win!

[Guest Italian Stallion]

I love the bat move. Helped me in so many situations. From money to car keys. Works like a charm, everytime, gauranteed!