Guest *KNK* Report post Posted October 6, 2005 2 Hours ago, my sister and her boyfriend of 3 and 1/2 years came over to the house unannounced and told us that he, had finally proposed to my sister. This is great news, They are made for each other and already lived together for 2 years now and already have a house. We expected this to happen and we were actually getting concerned about the delay but we figured he wanted to wait to ask after they had completed college as he did last spring and as my sister will this semester. Here is the problem, I'm extremely happy for my sister as she deserves a guy like him...but I don't personally like him. I've known him for 3 and 1/2 years and we have never had a dicussion beyond 10 words. He's not a bad guy, in fact he is too NICE, but after we celebrated...my future brother in law asked if I would like to be the best man. I was shocked because I wouldn't have expected him to even invite me to be in the wedding much less as the best man. I'm aware that his father is physically ill and likely couldn't perform those duties and that he has very few friends due to moving around his whole life but I never expected to be the best man. I told him "I'd be honored but let me think about it. I want to make sure it's the right move, there's plently of time to decide these things. Let's just enjoy the occasion at hand"... What should I do? Be the best man as a favor for my sister or politely decline because I honestly don't think I qualify as a "best man". My decision won't come from here but I was hoping maybe someone here has been through a situation or had advice on what would the appropriate manner of expressing my decision. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boon 0 Report post Posted October 6, 2005 I was the best man at my brother's wedding- it really depends on your family how important the role is. If he's got nobody else, I'd say help him out. You won't have to do much, other then give a toast and stand there looking pretty. Be straight with him on your decision- if you don't want to do it, say you don't want to b/c you don't feel like you know him well enough to fulfill responsibilities as the Best Man. If you want to do it- seems pretty apparent how to tell him. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Black Lushus 0 Report post Posted October 6, 2005 Shit, my best man did a lot for our wedding...helped coordinate stuff, made different arrangements, boned the maid of honor and took me out for a HELL of a bachelor party... he also lined up a pretty funny sequence during the toast: during his toast he told any girls in the crowd that had my house key to bring it up to the front and put it in a fish bowl he was carrying. About 10 gals proceeded to head up with keys he had made. After that, my wife's GRANDMA comes up with a key. The funny part is, 3 of my male buddies ALSO came up with keys.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slayer 0 Report post Posted October 6, 2005 I was best man at my best friend's wedding and, incidentally, they did the same thing, Lushus Apparently it's old hack joke Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *KNK* Report post Posted October 6, 2005 Shit, my best man did a lot for our wedding...helped coordinate stuff, made different arrangements, boned the maid of honor and took me out for a HELL of a bachelor party... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> That's what im primarily worried about. I can do the stand there on his side and give the toast part. It's the fact I'm basically being asked to do all that as well, help cooridinate, get along with the maid of honor (whom im pretty sure is an old flame of mine that didn't end well) and of course, the bachelor party. How do I throw a party for a guy who basically has zero personality? Ultimately, I figure it's an excuse to throw ME the party I want but I'm betting he will simply want to get 2-4 guys together and play scrabble. It's important to the family obviously, despite him being an absolute bore of a person, He's a great guy and the only time I ever saw my father accept any of my sister's boyfriends. I think part of the reason I was asked is because I'm energetic and charismatic enough to pump blood into the wedding. Essentially, I know im expected to deliver the funny. I don't know. The wedding isn't for another year at the least and I'm just going to see what happens from there. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Black Lushus 0 Report post Posted October 6, 2005 I was best man at my best friend's wedding and, incidentally, they did the same thing, Lushus Apparently it's old hack joke <{POST_SNAPBACK}> well hell, here I thought my friend was being clever...now I gotta give him shit! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boon 0 Report post Posted October 6, 2005 A wedding I went to, they did the same thing w/ the bride's panties... Awkward.... Anyway- I was under 21, so I couldn't really go to the bachelor party, nor would I plan much, b/c they got married in Jamaica. Come to think of it, I didn't really have to do much of anything at all. Hmm. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kkktookmybabyaway 0 Report post Posted October 6, 2005 Just say yes, shutup and smile. And don't bother with a Bachelor Pary -- sounds like he wouldn't know what to do at one anyway. My best man did nothing for me, and that's because I didn't want anything done... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
