let it all out

[BUTT 0]

"Deep Thought" is Banky, right?

[Star Ocean 3 0]

My girlfriend and I live far apart. I've never loved anyone before her; not my family, not myself, not anyone. At the moment we're what you call "net-dating." We've been through a lot of issues together the past year and a half, but we still love each other and we still want to be together in the real world.

 

She's made me happier than anyone else ever has.

Do you frown on this? Do you know anyone that would frown on this?

 

I've never had a girlfriend in real life. Never tried to get one, either. Most girls look down on me as some sort of scum. Now do you frown on this?

[Hoff 0]

When I was in highschool, I had a couple of month-long, mostly makeout-based relationships with "real" girls before getting into a very serious (for 17, anyway) net-based relationship. I got laughed at...a lot. But, I was happy for nearly a year, and it was worth it to me. We did eventually meet, ever so briefly, and it was...nice.

 

Here's what you've got to consider:

 

1. First off, ask yourself objectively why you think girls look down at you. Is it a bullshit reason like looks or money, or do you tend to rip the legs off of puppies? You seem like an alright guy to me, but I don't really know you, and if you're doing something to legitamately frighten or bother women, if/when you and this woman meet, she's likely to be frightened and/or bothered. Use this knowledge as a chance to objectively look at yourself and try to better yourself, if needed.

 

//Tony Robbins

 

2. Are you in a position where you will be able to meet with her reasonably soon? Call "reasonable" within six months. If not, are you attempting to do so? A lot of people use "net-dating" as escapism; a way to get away from life's problems. Make sure this isn't you. You owe that to both yourself and this girl.

 

Furthermore, I don't know about you, but even months into my relationship, I still had the nagging doubts. Is she real? Is she who she says to be? For me, a face-to-face meet was the only way to know for sure. Likely, she has some of the same doubts, even if she won't admit them to you. If you say you want to meet, and she seems resistant, that doesn't mean to break it off immediately, but it IS a red flag.

 

3. Are you sure you're not settling? Luckily, the girl I was with was very pretty -- WAY the fuck out of my league, I tell you what. But, I assume you've traded pics at this point (if not, do so). When you meet, you're going to need to be attracted to each other. Now, attraction can grow from love, but there needs to be SOMETHING there to work with. Just make sure that you're not going to lose the romantic fancy once you meet.

 

Good luck, man. And don't worry about anyone who looks down on it. There's a stigma, but first off, this is 2006, the friggin' age of computers, and furthermore, if you're happy, that's all that matters.

[Art Sandusky 0]

Fuck all that text. Just do what you do.

[Hoff 0]

Kotz, that post was remarkably average.

[Guest Princess Leena]

1. First off, ask yourself objectively why you think girls look down at you. Is it a bullshit reason like looks or money

 

Those aren't bullshit reasons.

 

Likely, she has some of the same doubts, even if she won't admit them to you. If you say you want to meet, and she seems resistant, that doesn't mean to break it off immediately, but it IS a red flag.

 

If iyou've known each other well for roughly 6 months, and one still isn't comfortable about meeting you... I'd say to cut it off. And this is from someone who's been stalked by an asshole on a wrestling board after talking with them for a few months. But, make sure not to go too fast. Like some certain individuals that want me to call them on our 2nd AIM conversation.

[Hoff 0]

OMG STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU AND FRIDGE. We get it; there was no reason to say anything more than "take it from someone who knows" except to throw it in his face.

 

As far as looks and money go, I agree, there has to be a base attraction. But money? Fuck that. Love don't have a price tag, girl. *snaps fingers*

[Art Sandusky 0]

Sure it does. What a remarkably average thought.

[Annabelle 0]

hey leena what happened between you & frigid soul? i dont know the story, and i want to know.

[Guest Princess Leena]

I was just pointing out an example. And Fridge isn't the only one from these boards who has done such a thing.

 

I guess money isn't important for certain age groups. I'm guessing you met this girl when you were in your lower to mid 20's. Very few have a good income then, so it's rarely significant.

[Hoff 0]

I don't know. I can't see it being a factor when I'm 35, 40...but then, I've never been that old, so who's to say. I was 17, incidentally -- not a lot of expenses at that age, so money definitely wasn't an issue.

 

And wait, other people have done that to you? Sheesh, girl, you are just not good at AIM, or something.

[Art Sandusky 0]

I was the first! I was the weird nerd who talked to girls here before it was cool, and stopped before it could do any lasting damage.

[Hoff 0]

Hold on. I've gotta break from the course of the thread for a moment.

 

Kotz: you do NOT get "remarkably average." It's mine. You used it and it sounded lame, so I took it and made it my own and now it's ironic. I made it ironic; I made it mean something. It's mine. And to steal someone else's material....why, I'd say that's remarkably below average.

 

Okay, thread back on.

[Art Sandusky 0]

And I'm currently in court proceedings with the guy who says he first typed "lol." What's your point.

[Hoff 0]

....that you don't get to use "remarkably average." I...I thought that was clear.

[Art Sandusky 0]

If my computer had a suitable hole, I'd fuck it. I...I thought that was clear.

[Guest Princess Leena]

Sheesh, girl, you are just not good at AIM, or something.

 

I'm admittedly the worst at it. Since I never talk, and block people for no reason.

[The Amazing Rando 0]

If my computer had a suitable hole, I'd fuck it. I...I thought that was clear.

 

His computer doesn't have a headphone jack? /lol

[slimm44 0]

Notproud.com would be my guess where all this is coming from. It's a bunch of anonymous confessions. But yeah I was confused with the first post too

[Hoff 0]

If my computer had a suitable hole, I'd fuck it. I...I thought that was clear.

I don't get it.

 

Now wait. Before you either rush off to defend it, or shoot off some sarcastic comment about how, of course, I wouldn't get it, or make some other art-school-dropout "clever" remark, let me clarify: I don't get it because it's not funny.

 

Leena, why you gotta be blockin' people?

[Art Sandusky 0]

Man, Hoff's bitter.

[Hoff 0]

I made it funny. You can't have it.

 

Also, wait. Did I just give advice to a joke post? I feel used.

[Guest]

I think we're living up to the title of this thread tonight, but we're doing it everywhere, cause we can do it anywhere.

[Guest Princess Leena]

Leena, why you gotta be blockin' people?

 

I get annoyed far too easily.

 

Like tonight, I blocked someone because I was trying to watch tennis on my computer. Now I have to bullshit apologize because he was already very paranoid with me, and he'll whine for a couple days, and then I'll probably block him again for whining.

[Guest]

I make it a habit to watch all of Wimbledon. Why is that?

[Hoff 0]

I hate people like that. I mean, jeez. Sometimes you wanna sign off, lie down, and just read, or in my case eat. It doesn't mean I hate you.

 

AIM is kind of full of bitches, now that I think about it.

[Guest]

AIM is kind of full of bitches = me, a bitch?

[Hoff 0]

Kind of.

 

We had, like, that one conversation, and it rocked, IIRC.

[Guest]

Whenever you are on, I'm not. It's definitely school related, I'm stressing bad right now.

[Art Sandusky 0]

Fortunately, wireless phone technology has advanced fast enough to keep AIM from becoming a major method of communication.