haVoc Posted June 10, 2006 Report Posted June 10, 2006 One of my best friends is getting married next Saturday (bachelor party tonight) and I plan on giving him and his new wife $50 in a card. I figure half of that will cover my dinner. Is $50 cheap considering he's one of my best friends?
CanadianChris Posted June 10, 2006 Report Posted June 10, 2006 Not really, especially if your budget is tight. We got several cash gifts of $50-$75 when we got married.
the max Posted June 10, 2006 Report Posted June 10, 2006 Yeah, there's no reason to break your budget, even if he's your best of best friends.
Hawk 34 Posted June 10, 2006 Report Posted June 10, 2006 If someone gave me $50 bucks for my wedding, I'd send it back to them. I've always given at least a minumum of $100(or something of equal value) for weddings and $50 for graduations for my friends and family. If he's a close friend, he should get more then a measly $50 bucks for his wedding.
Guest Posted June 10, 2006 Report Posted June 10, 2006 If he's a close friend, and your budget is tight, he won't care how much you give him. Of course, I'm assuming that since he's a close friend, he'd know your budget situation. Money isn't everything.
Hawk 34 Posted June 10, 2006 Report Posted June 10, 2006 Actually, get him something pratical because $50 doesn't go a long way. The wife will be getting a bunch of gizmos like pots and pans. The husband usually gets left out. This way he'll remember what you got him.
Vyce Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Anyone sending gifts back is an ass. Motherfucker, they don't have to GIVE you shit, no matter how close they are to you. Fifty dollars is fine. For something like that I personally like to give a bit more, around $100 (depending upon whether this was a casual friend or a close personal friend), but fifty is perfectly acceptable.
treble Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 If someone gave me $50 bucks for my wedding, I'd send it back to them. I've always given at least a minumum of $100(or something of equal value) for weddings and $50 for graduations for my friends and family. If he's a close friend, he should get more then a measly $50 bucks for his wedding. Buy them frames for their posters.
Guest Felonies! Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 If someone gave me $50 bucks for my wedding, I'd send it back to them. I've always given at least a minumum of $100(or something of equal value) for weddings and $50 for graduations for my friends and family. If he's a close friend, he should get more then a measly $50 bucks for his wedding. Buy them frames for their posters. Treble is the board's best-kept secret.
Guest wildpegasus Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Personally, I don't think anyone should be required to give anything for a wedding gift. That's why it's called a GIFT. With that being said, I think it depends on how much money you have. $50 is an awful lot of money to me and the most I've ever given at a wedding is $25 which I thought was overdoing it. Other times I just give none or a card because I don't have the money. Anyone expecting a gift that expensive from someone is excpecting too much. If they're offended by the amount than they're just a snob throwing up their nose at someone giving them a gift. And is there anything more disheartning than people who critisize others who try to help them?
Guest Felonies! Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 I guess if someone gives like, $1 for a wedding/graduation/etc gift, yeah, that's a shitty gesture, the equivalent of the one-penny tip. $50 is still a fair amount of money, especially if it's all the person can afford to give. You don't just give fifty dollars back and say "I start at 100, bitch." What a shitty thing to do. Your act is getting tired. I suggest a new username.
tominator89 Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 If it's a close friend, then $50 doesn't look bad at all. Just go and have a good time.
Guest NYankees Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 $50 doesn't even cover a fraction of the cost of you going to the person's wedding. Quit free loading.
Art Sandusky Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Okay, look. You're invited to weddings. That means they want you there for the most important day of their lives. I don't think covering the cost of it is really a big concern. Not even for Popick. Of course they're going to lose money. Anyway, just give what you can afford to give. That's all there is to it.
Big Ol' Smitty Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 However, by the simple task of giving your friend money? You greatly increase the importance of that friend and what he represents(chum, pal, partner, compatriot etc) and elevates the context within that friendship to a higher level.
tominator89 Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 I was a groomsman in my friend's wedding two weeks ago and I actually bought him a digital camera. It was well above the $50 mark, but as he told me it was just nice having all of us there. He wasn't the type to try to pull a profit on his wedding day. Him being humble is one of the reasons I didn't mind spending more than I wanted to on his gift.
kkktookmybabyaway Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Since your buddy's the groom he probably won't care. If your friend was the wife, then she'd probably bitch about it until the day she dies. (I'm half-joking here; probably at the worst she'll make a note of what you gave and will give the same to you when you get hitched, which is perfectly fair, imo.) $50 is just fine, especially if you're going to be there by yourself (no guest). Even if you brought someone, that's still good. And if Hawk sent back my $50 gift I'd say, "thanks" and pocket it. In addition, gift cards are a GREAT wedding gift, along with buying stuff that's, you know, are on the person ACTUAL WEDDING REGISTRY. And if you're going to get a gift card, make it to a place they want to shop at. (Note I'm speaking from personal experience on all of this.) And for all the "$50 haters" out there, my old man's wedding table of eight gave me and the better half $40 TOTAL. When we were counting up the money afterward, most of the money gifts were $50. One of my groomsmen gave us $100 and there were a few $20-40 amounts, too. It was nowhere near the amount of money needed to pay for the wedding/reception costs, but whatever. I'm only going to have to do all this shit (hopefully) once.
NoCalMike Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Picture frames are always a good gift idea because there are going to be so many pictures afterwards. Plus 90% of picture frames out there LOOK twice as expensive as they usually are. LOL.
the max Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 I guess if someone gives like, $1 for a wedding/graduation/etc gift, yeah, that's a shitty gesture, the equivalent of the one-penny tip. I had a friend in highschool that would give people however many cents for their birthday. Like, when I turned 14, he gave me 14 cents in a birthday card. And I gave him a slap in the face.
randomguy Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Buy them frames for their posters. Thread over, you win.
BUTT Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 However, by the simple task of giving your friend money? You greatly increase the importance of that friend and what he represents(chum, pal, partner, compatriot etc) and elevates the context within that friendship to a higher level. Excellent.
dubq Posted June 12, 2006 Report Posted June 12, 2006 In my eyes $50 is fine. In my girlfriend's crazy woman eyes she would want to give $100-$400 depending on if they're a friend or family. I have learned, however, that even though $50 seems reasonable, most dinners at catered weddings work out to about $100 a head (especially the multi-course ones), so that's usually what I give.
Dobbs 3K Posted June 13, 2006 Report Posted June 13, 2006 Maybe we were lucky, but our parents helped us out with a lot of the costs of the wedding. Though, honestly, we didn't go overboard. We had a nice service at her home church, and then the reception was at the local Knights of Columbus hall. Nice, but nothing fancy. We didn't care about how much money we got in gifts and such. We did have over 200 people at the wedding (my dad's side is really big), so we did get quite a few nice gifts, and did end up with a lot of money, though. I don't know for sure, but I'd say the average cash gift we got was probably 20-50 bucks. Certainly wouldn't have turned any of it down or sent it back.
iggymcfly Posted June 16, 2006 Report Posted June 16, 2006 It really depends on what you can afford. If you're in your early twenties and working a shit job, then $50 is fine. If you've got a real job, and this is a lifelong friend, you should probably step it up a little bit.
Longdogger_Pete Posted June 16, 2006 Report Posted June 16, 2006 I got married last month and most of our monetary gifts were in the $30-$50 range, with larger amounts coming primarily from family members. As far as giving gifts, I've only been to one wedding other than my own. It was my brother's, and since I didn't even want to be there, I didn't give him a damn thing.
C Dubya 04 Posted June 16, 2006 Report Posted June 16, 2006 I usually give $150 at weddings (that's with a date though). For my wedding we got anywhere from $25 to $350 from my friends in gifts and to tell you the honest truth we appreciated the 25 just as much as it was from my a good friend who has no money and spent to come to the wedding. I didn't even count on him to give anything at all. If your friend understands your money situations and knows that you're giving what you can, I think he'd feel the same. I also base my wedding gift partially on where the wedding is being held and if I know the people are paying, or getting help from their parents.
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